DD2 6 just told me something that has worried me...

[GruesomeShellChillingTortoise]

She just said that her 13yr old half Brother keeps pulling her trousers and knickers down and looking at her privates and has touched her(haven't asked her how). And when she is led on his bed he puts her knickers over her head so that his face is close to her privates.
I have just quickly spoken to him (because i didn't know what to say) and he said it was true. I have told him he mustn't do hings like that to his sister and that he shouldn't be looking/touching her privates.

Now i am worried and not sure if i should be doing/saying anything else to either DD2 or DS1.

Please help.

Tortoise, I have just read this thread through and wanted to say how amazingly you have dealt with this. Your love for your children really shines through.

I hope you all have a wonderful Christmas and I wish you luck for the future.

(PS daddydaycare, read the whole thread!)

Tortoise great news :)

How do all the kids seem now? Back to normal? Is DS worried he will be 'taken away' again?

ExMIL really is a nasty old bat isn't she!!

Chippingin Everything is going well. Things seem back to normal. DC all seem happy that DS1 is home and DS1 is happy too.
Not heard from SW yet about when she will do her visit! I am planning to have a word with her about XPs Mum because the boys have said a few things from Saturday and i won't have her bad mouthing about me to my DS's. Someone needs to tell her she shouldn't do it!

The mind boggles that she thinks it is acceptable to try to cause trouble between you and your DSs at a time like this! Kill her

Oh so tempting Titian! XP wouldn't cope without her cooking for him and doing his washing!

Sorry I don't see the problem?

Spent ages looking for this thread for an update! Was so worried for you all. Couldn't read though all of it though so sorry if I ask a question that had already been answered!

Am so pleased that he is going to be coming home! Is anything going to be done to figure out why it happened/stop it happening again/teach bounderies etc? Not criticising in any way just wondering what happens in these situations. How do your girls feel about what happened?
x

Monkey DS1 has been home for a week now. SS are trying to arrange for him to speak to a specialist in this sort of area. SW was meant to visit but cancelled, not heard from her in the last week to arrange new appointment!!
DD's seem fine. They are being normal with DS1.They didn't like what he was doing but it seems it didn't upset them (from what they said in police interview).

toirtoise, the thread disapeared from my watching so had to search it. I wanted to just check in for a quick update and see how things are for you now and offer my continued support. was ginodcampois mydh and have name changed.

So glad for you things have been good for you all.

what are your christmas plans? x

Sorry, just seen your message.
All is going well. Had a lovely Christmas all together at home.

Still not heard a thing from SW. Looks like i will be chasing that up in Jan! Still waiting for SW to speak to DD's and haven't heard anymore about help for Ds1.

Have just read all the thread. Hats off to you for being the best mother your kids could ask for. Must have been difficult for you all and i admire your courage and determination.

Glad you had a lovely Christmas and i wish you all the best for the New Year in getting the help your need for all your kids.

I don't know if anyone from the thread will see this now but..
up until today, i had heard nothing from SW. DD's have not been spoken too and no news about DS1 speaking to anyone.
So, i got a letter from SW today saying 'We will no longer be involved with your family at this time'.
I don't know if i should be phoning the SW and saying 'hang on, you haven't even spoken to DD's like you planned too and what is happening with DS1 getting help' or should i assume they are happy to leave it now as all seems ok?
I don't know what to do.

Not sure about her being 'damaged' by it. Me and my brother used to do things like this to eachother all the time although he was only 2 years older than me so there wasn't the sense that he should no better etc.

I think it's normal curiosity and I wouldn't involve proffessionals but I would make it very clear that it can not continue and your ds really is getting to the age where he's bound to be curious but it's not right to 'experiment' with his sister.

Sorry only read first page.

I've just read the whole thread, Tortoise. I think you were AMAZING the way you handled the whole thing.

I think if it were me I would ring the SW and ask why your DS hasn't been offered any help. If they still won't help I would follow that up with a letter saying you are very disappointed that they didn't follow through on the help they promised.

Really just so that you are covered, should SS, the police, your XP or his cow of a mother should ever, in the future, try and point any fingers at you as to why nothing ever came of it.

Aww thanks casserole. Must have taken while to read!
Ds1 was offered help and SW was meant to be arranging someone for him to speak to. Think i do need to chase it up really. Shocked that they haven't TBH.

It sounds as though they are satisfied that,now that you are aware ,your parenting skills are sufficient to manage the situation.I think you are amazing tbh but if you feel you still need help I'd write; otherwise just keep their letter in case you need it.I hope your ds was made sufficiently aware of how unacceptable his behaviour was to never ever think of doing such a thing again.