DD2 6 just told me something that has worried me...

[GruesomeShellChillingTortoise]

She just said that her 13yr old half Brother keeps pulling her trousers and knickers down and looking at her privates and has touched her(haven't asked her how). And when she is led on his bed he puts her knickers over her head so that his face is close to her privates.
I have just quickly spoken to him (because i didn't know what to say) and he said it was true. I have told him he mustn't do hings like that to his sister and that he shouldn't be looking/touching her privates.

Now i am worried and not sure if i should be doing/saying anything else to either DD2 or DS1.

Please help.

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Your XP was absolutely making it up, Tortoise.

How has your weekend been Tortoise? Have you had any contact with DS1?
Will you be making any phone calls to SS or police tomorrow?

sparkleshine Weekend has been ok thanks. Took DD's and DS2 out for the day today which was nice.
Haven't had any time with DS1 yet. Hoping to hear from SW tomorrow.

I told XP i was thinking about reporting the police man for telling him that lie about me not wanting XP there! He didn't seem bothered!

Tortoise thinking of you and hope that next week goes well and you can start getting the family back together.

As previous posters have said I think XP is messing with your head - you are a strong lady keep remembering that.

Glad you had a nice weekend - fingers crossed you will get to see DS1 soon.

Your Ex is a pain in the arse! I would try to ignore any of his crap. I hope you get somewhere with the police/SS in the morning x

Glad you had a good weekend. Hope you see your DS soon, must be very frustrating for you.

I would mention to them about that policeman, he wasn't doing his job properly and it's causing more hassle and tension.

Hope you get some answers today.

Finally heard from SS today.
Police have confirmed they are not taking things any further.
SW will visit us at home next Wedneday to speak with DD's about keeping safe etc then hopefully DS1 can come home after that.

They are also happy for DS1 to come here after school/weekend in the mean time to gradually work towards coming home. She will contact XP to sort this as i said i wasn't happy to sort it myself after last week!

They will also arrange for DS1 to speak to someone but this may take time!

Overall things are slowly improving.

just checking in to see how you are doing? have you had any news yet?

keep strong you are doing great, glad your weekend was ok.

This all sounds promising. At least things are getting sorted now and hopefully everything will be back to 'normal' soon.
The whole thing will have scared your DS and I hope he gets the help and support he needs to not behave that way again

good luck

Cross post Gino

Tort - this is really good news :)

Hi tort,

I've been reading since the beginning and haven't posted before but am so very pleased things are looking up and your ds1 will get some help and come home to you soon.

You've been so strong through this whole thing, fabulous.

Take care
x

glad things are going this way...wont be long
good idea getting sw to make plans with xp but make sure he does not sway them in taking any of this out of your hands write down what you want and expect from dd coming home, what intro looks like and what time scale is. best of luck.

housing to tackle next.

Excellent news :)

I agree with Gino about letting SS know what you want or XP will be sticking his oar in and getting it all how he wants it!

Tortoise so pleased that things are moving forward for you and your DC.

Take care of yourself as well

I have also been following from the beginning. Sooo pleased things are getting there for you all. You are a credit to your children and your family...where others would have burried their head in the sand you have stayed strong and faced things head on. Very best wishes for the future. X

:)

Thank you.
XP is being a twat again! I text him to see if the SW has phoned him. He said no. So i explained that DS1 will be allowed home after she has spoken to DD's next week and that we need to arrange when i can see DS1 in the mean time.
His response was 'I wait for her to tell me' .
Looks like I will be phoning the SW tomorrow to sort it out otherwise i won't get to see DS1 this week!

twat!! you would have thought he would be relived and work with you on this. you seem to know what to expect from him and how to manage this so I hope you get it sorted before next week and maybe get some time with them all together over the weekend..

Definitely ring her tomorrow. Tell her that he will do all he can to make your life and that of the kids difficult. That you want DS HOME ASAP before your XP and his Mother do any more harm.... start getting a bit forceful! (nicely of course - more flies with honey & all that).

Chippingin I have agreed with her that i will see DS1 gradually at home over the next week until she sees DD's on Wednesday then she will be happy for him to come home. She wants to integrate him back into the family slowly! Will definitely ring SW tomorrow (if she is there!!!).

Wow Tortoise. I've just read this entire 25 page thread and feel over-wrought with emotion after. Can only imagine what you've been through if I'm getting flipping emotional!

Can I just say that I'm in awe of you. You've had the most difficult month I can imagine and you've been there for ALL of your children. I take my hat off to you, I really do. I'm so pleased to hear things are starting to look up for you all. I hope your children all remember this remarkable thing you did for them all.

You rock.

Thank you Littlewhitewolf That must have taken you a while to read the whole thread. It has been a terrible time but hopefully things are on the way up.

Typical, SW not there until this afternoon! Hope she phones back!

Hi Tortoise I've been following your thread and am so relieved things have worked out for you. Hope you get DS1 home with you soon and things get back to normal. Maybe then you can hassle (or get SS to help hassle) for you to get rehoused so you can be upstairs with them all at night. Easier for you to be certain nothing untoward is happening.

By the way - is anyone talking to DS2 as you hinted there was some odd behaviour with him too? Maybe ask SS to talk to both of them - if one was affected by XP then presumably the other will too in some way.

I hope all is well for your sons - you have done well for them and your daughters. Good Luck!