DS is 3. He has SN. He is under diagnosis but it is pretty likely autism. He doesnt have grandparents around, mine are in America, DH's Mum is dead and Dad is in Thailand. He has 2 lovely adopted Grandparents, a Nanny L and Uncle M (they are unrelated to each other!). They love him very much and have been around since the pregnancy and they are both aware of his problems and very good with him.
His Nanny L wants to take him to the zoo as a treat for his birthday which was Saturday, he would love to go. She is happy to take all of us as he is usually wanting to obsessively be cared for by me or DH. However we think it would kind of be nice for him to go with Nanny without us. Firstly so we could have an extremely rare break! But also because if we are there he is likely to not pay so much attention to his Nanny and we want it to be a special thing for the both of them.
So it would be a half day, we would of course be available by phone etc and we could give her full disaster instructions like if he has a meltdown or something. I really dont know if we should go or not. Also part of me thinks he will really want to have me and DH with him as it will be such a huge thing for him and he will want to enjoy it with us. We are really close. But I just dont know. It should be a normal thing for a 3 year old to go to the zoo with a grandparent. I need help thinking it through.