help me settle an arguement with mil

[huggybear]

At ds2's first b'day this weekend there will be some children with food allergies. A coupla are gluten free and i think there maybe a peanut allergy. Gluten free i have delt with but my mil says its okay to have peanuts in a bowl on the table whereas i think we should exclude peanuts completly as it can be serious for a sufferer if they come into contact with them and also because they are a chocking hazard. I know there will be adults there and they'll want adult food but at the end of the day its a babies party and the kids cant be watched every secand of the day. Mil is insistant that there will be peanuts (and salmon sandwiches - yuk) and she is doing the shopping and preparing all the food. DO you think im right and do you think its reasonable for me to stamp my feet and demand there are no peanuts or am i being silly?

huggybear

Message for your MIL

Go run up a down pipe, in other words tell her to fuck off

if she brings the food round days before the party eat the peanuts, or hide them.

but no peanuts at the party.

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Ok, I agree your MIL is being daft, but how about finding out exactly from the mother of the child in question what the allergy is and how serious it is? If it is definitely a full-blown peanut allergy, then you must be adamant on that child's behalf that no peanuts should be in the house!

As for choking, well, presumably at a first birthday, all the parents will be staying, so there will be plenty of eyes to watch out for kids sneaking handfuls. Make a point of putting the bowl of peanuts well out of reach, and no-one should come to any harm.

THERE WERE NO PEANUTS AT THE PARTY!!!!

Just loads of manky prawns - yuk!

in her defence though she did do a wonderful buffet and was complimented loads

Excellent! So did you sabotage them or did you tell her what was what??