Well Enid - I stuff my kids before parties so that they limit their intake of crap offered at birthday parties..., YES most (I would say all) birthday parties offer crap food - sorry!
My kids' birthday parties are known to be with healthy food and healthy party bags (raisins, satusmas and toys)..... maybe one day my kids will resent that - who knows !
As for kids being taught to eat healthy stuff... we're having a laugh????????? As many of you know I work as a postnatal doula which means that on most days I serve tea to toddlers (whose mother just had a newborn).
I can NOT remember one child drinking water with his meal though I have tried to encourage it. There is always nuggets, "dinosaurs", chips, waffles and other fatty ready made "junk" in people's fridge. Mothers often ask me if I can make something healthy... I do... child looks un-impressed and gets a cadbury ice cream as pud (as a reward for not eating the vegetables or anything else)... BTW I always ask kids what vegetables they like, the choice is always very small (some have never even had courgettes, peppers, aubergines, leeks, green beans, parsnips,...)
They of course would rather have have tinned pasta, a bowl of cereal (which contains a hell of a lot of sugar), Incredibles yogourt, ready-made pizza (I make my own from scratch with my kids, it takes 3 mins... OK dough takes 1 hour to rise).
So when do they actually eat freshly cooked vegetables ? I genuinely wonder !!!
I am sure some kids eat well but I have never been impressed with the kids I serve tea for, these kids are from well-off families too. And they eat very small quantities... of course they do get biscuits as snacks (bourbon cream, chocolate chips,...)
OK now I have made three million ennemies