YP - so sorry that you're having this experience! I do PC shows (and I often call them parties!) and I hope that I never cause any of my hosts this amount of angst (and, yes, I know its not me coming to you - no show this evening). We're not all the same, just as in real-life, there are lots of different types of people that do this, and some are better than others about listening to what is being said to them and picking up on tones of voice etc.
I do hope that you have a good party this evening despite this! If I were you, if she immediately launches into 'would you be interested in the job' when she arrives, I would say that you've already told her that it's not something that you would consider and you don't want to continue that line of conversation, or words to that effect - otherwise you'll just end up seething!
My recommendation is to go for stoneware to use your points on - it cooks really well, you don't need to turn things over to brown on both sides, and you can do practically everything in oven - eg spag bol, put all ingredients, raw (eg, uncooked diced onion and raw mince etc) into rectangular baker and bang in oven - stir 40mins/1hr later, and leave to cook a bit more - won't dry out, doesn't need initial browning of meat etc. BTW, is she doing YP's for you? That's one of my favourites as they cook so well and are very impressive...
I would love to know who she is - is there any chance that you could put her initials down here?