About a month ago, LinkedIn notified me that a man I went on a date with over 15 years ago had viewed my profile. We work in totally different fields and have no connections in common. It’s made me feel very weird because, though I never told anybody, I believe he raped me.
I was in my mid twenties and he was at least 10 years older. We met online and went for drinks. I got very drunk and we went to his fancy penthouse north London flat. Think large bottles of Belvedere vodka on the kitchen island and a huge terrace etc. He seemed exciting, but in hindsight there were so many red flags. There was a post it on the door when we got there which he quickly pulled off, there were ladies items in the flat, he stopped messaging me on his phone but used email instead before we met. Obviously he was not single, but I was young and naive.
We had consensual sex, but at some point during the night I woke up and he was having sex with me. I remember having a shower and just crying on the floor. We never spoke again after I went home and had no contact. Until this view of my LinkedIn page.
Not sure how to feel or how on earth he found me. I have a distinctive but fairly difficult to spell surname. I’m now happily married with 2 children. Just needed to put this somewhere other than in my head.