2 weeks ago I booked a local soft play area for ds's 3rd birthday in April. I sent off my booking form along with a 50% deposit which was £49.00. (this was based on 10 kids) After receiving my cheque the boss woman called to say that their terms and conditions had now changed and it was now a minimum of 12 kids. This meant paying an axtra £20. Beacuase I kid of felt it was already expensive enough, I didn't really want it to cost anymore. So to buy me some time whilst I discussed it with dh,I told her to destroy the cheque, and said that I would send her a new one for the correct amount based on 12 kids attending. My thinking behind this was that I could always call her and cancel and I wouldn't have paid any money.
Anyway, 2 days later she called to say that she had inadvertantly banked my cheque and that she would simply collect the balance on the day. As I had decided to hold his party somewhere cheaper, I told her a white lie and said our plans had now changed and we would be now out of the country for ds's birthday so could she organise a refund.
She said no - they don't do refunds and got a bit snotty. She said my options were to lose the money or hold his party on another day. This made me cross so I stopped the cheque at my bank and sent her an email telling her so. She has replied to my email in a very snotty way, saying she won't be paying the bank charges (not that I expected her to, am happy to pay charges myself)and making it quite clear that I am in the wrong for not honouring my booking.
She makes me mad I want to send her a snotty mail back. Don't appreciate being strong armed into having ds's party on a date not convenient to us.
What should I do, and am I in the wrong here?
TIA