I saw a thread on this recently but now can't find it as I think it had started out as something else. It got me thinking, anyway.
How do we manage people comparing our children to each other?
Ds1 and ds2 look quite similar except that ds1 has bigger, deeper brown eyes with really long lashes which people always notice. Ds2 has brown eyes too, slightly smaller with long lashes but not so long as ds1. I think they are both just gorgeous but people always comment on ds1's eyes and lashes and never ds2. I don't want ds2 to grow up thinking he is plain but you can't stop the comments.
Also, when we were kids I had the idea that my sister was the bright one while I was sporty and arty. Also that she was shyer while I was more sociable. I don't think these stereotypes came from our parents who saw that I was also quite bright and my sister was not just brains but friendly too etc etc. So did we hear comments from other people or did we decide this ourselves? I'd like to avoid my children sinking into these ways of thinking as they can be negative while still celebrating that they are different and good at different things. I believe that some of my 'issues' in adult life stem from this kind of childhood memory.
Has anyone got any experiences or ideas on this?