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Strange keyword searches on my comp......BIL been at it

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jampots · 29/12/2004 18:45

My sis came over earlier and needed to use my computer, so knowing how nosy she is I made sure and deleted all searches from my comp so definitely knew it basically had no history. Anyway she took a break after a couple of hours and ds said he wanted to go on the computer which he was using for about 5-10 mins. Then BIL came (previous history of porn addiction - ongoing) he and sister went up to my room to type their invoices as ds had finished. Sister came down leaving BIL in my room. I've now just begun work at my computer and as Ive begun typing in the google search box the words "vagina" and "vagina sex" have come up. The other searches were for various wrestlers (Mysterio, Triple H etc) as ds is into these right now. Not sure how to tackle it.

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Gobbledigook · 29/12/2004 18:48

If it was me I'd tell him outright I didn't want him searching these things on my computer, particularly with the high chance of your ds finding them quite easily.

I'd have no particular problem with the fact that he looks at these things (as long as not deviant in any way) but I would strongly object to it being on my PC. I don't think he can argue with that can he?? It is your computer!

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jampots · 29/12/2004 18:50

Thanks GDG - i know he has done this for years and it has been a bone of contention between my sis and BIL for years. He also admitted to following women and jerking off at work once he'd managed to "store" enough footage in his head. Personally he makes me sick and in the past my sister has thrown his laptop and broken it as it gets to her so much.

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SueW · 29/12/2004 18:51

Change and save your preferences on google so that in future his searches won't be very successful.

Gobbledigook · 29/12/2004 20:55

Sounds a bit beyond normal iykwim. Following women and storing footage??? Or maybe lots of men do it, I don't know but it sounds creepy.

Definitely tell him you don't want him near your PC.

marthamoo · 29/12/2004 20:57

Never mind your PC, I wouldn't want him in my house. What a nightmare.

JudgeFlounce · 29/12/2004 20:58

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bonniej · 29/12/2004 21:12

i know i'm probably barking up the wrong tree given your bils history, but the word "vagina" is something a child might put in the search engine out of curiosity. I know my ds used to be fascinated with this word. His primary school taught sex education, a bit young imo. Your bil does sound very creepy though. How old's your ds?

OLittleYurtofBethlehem · 29/12/2004 21:50

Jampots - if it were me i would say (so that your make your opinion totally clear!) that in future given your "history" you will not be welcome to connect to the web on OUR computer - directly to BIL

Its not as if your sis is likely to be cross with you at your saying this - there is no way i would allow anyone into that kind of stuff anywhere near our computer

Why not change your dial up password so he cant access the web at all?

OLittleYurtofBethlehem · 29/12/2004 21:54

Sorry if this is out of order Jampots - but why is your sis married to this guy - He sounds horrid

Yurtgirl creeps away quietly in case he is nice really.........

sparklymieow · 29/12/2004 22:14

has he deleted the history, if not you can right click on the websites and go to properties and it should have the date and time that page was assessed, then you could work out if it was DS or BIL

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jampots · 29/12/2004 22:21

no yurt its not out of order - i think he is a w**ker (literally). He makes me sick and he's ruined my sisters life. They have been married for 13 years and her life has gone downhill since she married him. He ran up a £350 mobile phone bill one month accessing porn on the internet. He insisted he started his own franchise business which nearly bankrupted them and now they've sold it he hasn't got a job lined up. They've gone from a big 4 bed detached house which they built themselves with small mortgage to a 2 bed house (albeit a nice area) with £150k mortgage. If she did something horrid to him i wouldn't blame her

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sparklymieow · 29/12/2004 22:27

some men really can't help themselves can they? I flipped at Dh when I discovered porn in my history, and he has never done it since, he knows I know too much about the PC to try again....

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jampots · 29/12/2004 22:28

i know - porn doesn;t bother me but dont like the idea of it on my comp as the children use it too

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sparklymieow · 29/12/2004 22:34

it was the fact that DS, 7 uses the computer and no-one is allow to use it for porn searches.

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jampots · 29/12/2004 22:38

the other day we were at my sis's house and ds was in the bedroom (off the lounge - strange house) and BIL was trying to get the computer set up - i nearly flipped knowing what he gets up to. I even asked sister if she had cleared EVERYTHING from the comp. in teh end we went home rather than have ds find it

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OLittleYurtofBethlehem · 30/12/2004 19:40

Why oh why does your sis stay with this guy? - Have they got kids? - Personally i really hate porn so perhaps my reaction is more extreme!!!!! - But i just couldnt tolerate this behaviour or the waste of money!

Still think you should change the dial up password so at least he cant use your computer at all - Why would he need to anyway? - HE can access his own at home - Really shows the level of his "habit" if he cant resist the temptation of having a sneaky peek at porn on your computer

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jampots · 30/12/2004 22:03

do you know Yurt - none of us know why my sister stays with this idiot - i think she has no self confidence left. She was desperate for children and found through many tests that he has immobile sperm - thank God she doesnt have any with him.

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WideWebWitch · 31/12/2004 06:09

He sounds awful and sick. WHY would he think it acceptable to do this in his SIL's house, on her computer? It's just weird. I'd tell him, in no uncertain terms.

champs · 01/01/2005 17:06

bluerg!! horrid!!
You could set up parental controls so no one can access certain sites. That way you can be sure. It seems to me that a person like bil wouldn't listen to you saying you dont want him searching such stuff anyway.
I feel sorry for your sis .

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