3 kids at the age of 19 all aged 5 and under

[FluffyPinkSheeps]

im not sure where to put this but whats your opinion.

A Girl of 19 has just had her 3rd child all under 5 years old old. she is married and they have the same father (not that that makes a difference) but all 3 are in foster homes. the eldest 2 for being abused and neglected and the 3rd was taken off her 3 days after being born. she claims every benefit going and never done a days work in her life.

im just asking what you think as its made me really mad. we are paying for her to breed and we're giving her our money to do it. also her husband is scruffy, spends his time in the pub and smokes weed!!

i dont think the looks of her husband matter.
a 19 year old is biologically, and legally able to have three children under the age of three, and biologically under the age of nine, if we assume she started her periods age 9, which is possible.
the problem is her abusing her children and not working, or contributing to society in any concrete way. it would annoy me. but since i cannot do anything about it, i'd probably just ignore it, if i could

Not sure how she's supposed to have done a day's work at that age with 3 kids tbh.

What an awful situation. I agree, horrible in lots of ways. But I can think of worse things to do with my taxes than to feed this girl and her children.

choosy, she doesnt have the children. fluffy says they were taken from her because of neglect
i wouldnt mine taxes going to pay for children eating.

i tend to think people lead harsh lives we know little about..

It's not something to approve of, or be proud of... I agree.... but you do kind of have to feel sorry for this girl...

I can't imagine her life is a happy one...

In an ideal world, I suppose she wouldn't have had kids, she would have thought about the lives they would lead etc., but we just have to accept that we don't live in an ideal world.

children are removed from family homes for reasons we cannot possibly know. there is a real chance these kids were being abused and neglected, but given that SS have in the past stated bf-ing a 15 month old as a reason for removing a child we cannot know.

you don't know why she's on benefits. if she doesn't have children living with her she won't be able to claim tax credits etc, she may well be severely depressed and on Incapacity benefit or DLA.

my point is - you don't know. you can't know. so unless you are offering help in some sort of practical way, don't judge. if you can't help but judge, then don't think about it.