How forgiving are you?

[givemecoffeee]

Just that really.

I have a situation, where an in-law said and did something that I consider to be horrible, at such a vulnerable time in my life.
Partner backs them completely (Although, I know it’s a hard situation to be ‘stuck in the middle). I don't really want to say what it’s about, because it’s ‘outing’.
I’m trying hard to forgive and move past, but feel it’s left it’s mark.

So it got me thinking - how forgiving are you? (if someone/something hurt you?)

I am not very forgiving at all - I wish I was better at it but I do hold onto grudges, hurt etc. Loyalty and trust are really important to me - I try to be loyal and value people's trust, therefore if people are disloyal to me or break my trust, it is a big deal for me. If someone was genuinely sorry for what they had done, I would likely let go of some of my resentment, but I wouldn't completely forgive them and would still keep them at arm's length.