Anyone else having a bad day?

[PamT]

I woke up to hear DD yelling at 5am with an extremely stinky nappy - no going back to sleep there. So I went downstairs, switched the computer on and received 3 e-mails all containing the Klez virus, fortunately dealt with by Norton's Anti Virus before they did any damage but it took a bit of sorting out and checking. DD was in a foul mood and wouldn't eat breakfast so most of it went on the floor.

Yesterday wasn't much better, I was woken by the neighbour's car alarm going off at 5.30am and managed to get a stone chip in the car windscreen on the way to playgroup, not a bad one but right in the line of vision so the screen will have to be replaced and unfortunately isn't covered on the insurance.

Grrrrrrrrrrrr! Hope tomorrow is better.

Thanks, SueDonim. I'll be off to Woolworth's tomorrow!

Mopsy,
How are you? Have you phoned him yet? xxx

oh mopsy, how awful. I can't really offer anything but to echo what's already been said. I expect he's feeling pretty hurt. Ring him and explain and I expect he'll be glad to know that the issue was about money, not something he'd said or done.

I'm a single Mum and know how difficult it can be. But don't risk your relationship over this.

XXX

Very bad attitude from ds first thing this morning, house is a tip, friend who arranged to come to stay 2 months ago has cancelled whilst making comments about ds in the background (oh, is he being awkward because he's just been to his Dads for the weekend" Me in my head: no, he just is having one of those days, it's nothing to do with the fact that we're separated, so f* off ). It will get better today, it will get better today...

WWW, Chill, chill

Having a bad morning too. Had argument with d.h. last night. Drank too much as a result, woke up with stinking hangover to an unbelievable amount of mess (lego, knex, barbies). Have just discovered the cats have fleas. Cat hating parents coming to stay in a few days time!

Like you say, it can only get better.

Hi all, thanks for listening and offering such kind advice.

Not entirely sure what's happening at the mo; I did contact him and explain, and apologise for handling it so badly in the first place. It seemed he was very distant, and when I explained that I felt upset and uncertain that he seemed to not care he was very curt in saying that he couldn't think about it as he was concentrating on enjoying his dd's birthday.....so I felt even more awful.

He didn't make contact yesterday (we always spend Sundays together whether we have our children with us or not). A friend who's read Men are from Mars etc says he's gone into his 'cave' (to think) and that I must just leave him to come out and find me when he's ready.

Not feeling good though. I think the real issue is that we don't seem to be very good at communicating with eachother about 'deeper' issues. Sorry for confused and boring rambling! thanks again. love Mopsy xx

Mopsy, poor you -I hope you both are taking again soon. Your boyfriend must see that you're trying so hard to be independent. I'm sure his curtness was because he was concentrating on his daughter. You say she was upset you weren't at her birthday. It's touching to think she wants to share her day with her daddy's partner's family. To me that speaks volumes - she must really like you. Isn't that so good in the long run?

I haven't been in the situation of having both a new partner and a child to think about. It must raise many complicated issues along the way. From what you've said here, if your dp doesn't come out of his cave in a few days, I'd give him a call.

spelling - I meant 'talking' not 'taking' in first line of message.

Thought I would join in on this one this morning. I keep shouting at all my work colleagues which can't be good so maybe if I vent here I'll stop doing that!

Started off being really pissed off about a GMTV story this morning about the MMR (see MMR and the Media for more on that one), left threatening message (for the zillionth time) for the people who are supposed to be fixing my driveway knowing there's little chance of them phoning back, even if they did want to phone back my mobile appears to be broken (keeps turning itself off), then got to work and found out a client wants to change programming specs again for something that was supposed to be finalized in April - thus completely destroying all the hard work I've done for them in the last 2 months and I'll have to start from scratch and to top it all off, the bank have told us they won't refinance our mortgage for as much as we need to build an extension.

...oh, here's the latest update - driveway guy did actually phone back because I'd threatened to speak to my solicitor - but the best he could do was 'some time this week'!!!

nope, I don't feel better, i think chocolate is required.

I went to my gran's funeral today saw my dad but we kept out of each others way. I still feel really angry with him for not seeing gran over the past five years even when she was really ill, especially as my gran was upset that he never visited her. He was at the funeral and didnt look upset I just think he's a hipocrit.

Dear Trudles
this must have been a really difficult time for you; sending best wishes love Mopsy x

thanks for all your support everyone got a bit upset a work today but Im ok now. DD has been very naughty at nursery today and acting totaly out of character , (got called into the office so it must have bad)maybe she's picking up some of my vibes things should start returning to normal nowso hopefully her bad behavour wont last.

hope your ok mopsy

Hi Trudles

thanks I am kind of ok, much better than I was anyway! sorry to hear you had a rough day; I'm sure your dd will soon settle down.

Talked alot with dp yesterday and things are pretty much ok. He is happy to keep paying for me as he has been, but he's worried that in the long run it's not good for my self-esteem. We've agreed that I do need to either find work, or apply for a university place, as I'm not really content with how things are (both my children are at school now). So I have decisions to make.... love Mopsy x

I'm having another bad day.

I got the Working Families Tax Credit notice back today and I am no longer entitled to the free prescriptions etc by about £3 so DH's £1500 pay rise works out at around £200 when all the adjustments are made and I daren't go to the doctors or dentists now. The School Clothing Grant form also came but because the WFTC doesn't give me health exemption I don't qualify (that's another £50 that I lose).The health food shop couldn't get me the non-dairy cheese that I ordered for the pizzas I was planning to make for tea. Then on the way home the exhaust went on the car so it sounds like a stock car or something now.

On top of all this I know that my neighbour will come back into the garden to carry on working in the big hole that he dug to sort his drains and he will no doubt bring his dog with him which is bound to cock its leg all over the kids sand pit again. Even if he doesn't come back today I still have a gaping hole so the kids can't play out anyway. But I've already done all this on the getting it off my chest thread.

BTW I still haven't got last week's stone chip repaired in the other car £40 + VAT was the cheapest quote but the car alarm hasn't gone off at stupid times since last week (though it has gone off during the day a few times).

I AM going to win the lottery on Saturday. I AM going to win......

Hey PamT, we have had 2 stone chips in the windsheild of one of our cars. One has been there 2 years and the other 3 years and neither has gotten bigger or stopped us from getting MOT's (legitimate ones), so save yourself the £40 and spend it on drugs (legal ones).

We had a crack in our windscreen for two years, too. It got through the MOT because it wasn't in the line of sight and was less than (I think) 8 inches long. Had to have it replaced recently as it had got a lot longer, but two years wasn't bad!

Having a bad day...

Three and a half hours sleep last night and have come into work without my breast pump! Dh has already left to take dd to nursery and then onto work himself, so no point phoning home. Can't get out of work myself today, so I'm going to have to put up with the engorgement- I never got the hang of hand expressing, and any way nothing to catch it in!

Tissy - I suppose you'd get some funny looks if you stuck some cooling cabbage leaves down your bra. Poor you, its going to be a long day.

SueDonim & SofiaAmes, unfortunately the stone chip is in the A zone which would cause an MOT failure (the car had only passed its MOT the week before it happened). However, DH won't drive with so much as a squashed fly in his line of vision so leaving the chip is not an option. It doesn't bother me because I'm not as tall and I wear glasses which are usually filthy anyway so I'm used to looking through the various blobs. We're going to look at the local scrap yards and see if it is cheaper to replace the screen.

We're also looking for a good caravan scrapyard in Yorkshire after a minor mishap with the caravan at the weekend - but that's another story! Anyone know of one?

If I had some cabbage leaves I'd put up with the funny looks!

Took DS for his first lot of injections today at 8 weeks. I've just changed Doctors due to a house move and had my 6 week check up with my old Doctor, so this was the first time I'd met the new one. Anyway, he asked if I'd had my postnatal check - I said yes and explained about changing Doctors etc - he then asked if I was pregnant again - I said no, and he said, sorry, it's just that your stomach looks big!!!

I know that this probably sounds ridiculous to be so upset - but I don't feel great about the way I look just now (stretch marks, and yes after a 9lb7oz DS, my stomach is not in great shape!), and I could really have done without this!!

What a thing to say!! I'd feel upset too, it takes a long time to physically and emotionally recovery from pregnancy/birth/crazy hormones etc.Don't be too hard on yourself, I bet you're doing just fine. I'm 2 yrs on from dd2 and still have far to many squishy/wobbly bits and boobs with a bid for Oz!. Be assured too, only a man (even if he is a Dr) could say that!!!

I had a 10lb-er so I know where you're coming from, Kyliebump.

I have to confess that, 3 1/2 years (and another baby) on, I still could be considered pregnant from certain angles! All the weight went so I don't know what this bump is. I know what it ISN'T though!!