Anyone else having a bad day?

[PamT]

I woke up to hear DD yelling at 5am with an extremely stinky nappy - no going back to sleep there. So I went downstairs, switched the computer on and received 3 e-mails all containing the Klez virus, fortunately dealt with by Norton's Anti Virus before they did any damage but it took a bit of sorting out and checking. DD was in a foul mood and wouldn't eat breakfast so most of it went on the floor.

Yesterday wasn't much better, I was woken by the neighbour's car alarm going off at 5.30am and managed to get a stone chip in the car windscreen on the way to playgroup, not a bad one but right in the line of vision so the screen will have to be replaced and unfortunately isn't covered on the insurance.

Grrrrrrrrrrrr! Hope tomorrow is better.

Had to go to London today - which I hate because it means being up at 5, and spending 5 hours a day travelling even if the trains are on time. And today they weren't. Ended up 29 minutes late - enough to get me a roasting for only being 15 monutes early instead of the 45 minutes early I usually am, but 1 minute under the limit to get part of the fare back. And being that late meant that all the people who usually caught that train, and the one after all piled on to it, so it was even more of a cattle truck than usual. If that wasn't enough an arrogant bloke got on, shoved his way through the crowd to where I was sitting and said "Excuse me, but I must ask you to move so that I can sit there". Now there didn't seem to be any physical reason why he should have any more need for the seat than anyone else (and it wasn't reserved or anything) so I asked him (politely) if he could explain why - to which he told me that he always had that seat! I'm afraid I said something along the lines of "first come first served" which earned me several expletives....

Things didn't get any better - got told off for not being early enough, warned for habitually leaving earlier than the nominal finish time (although I also habitually arrive early and work through lunch and I had a verbal agreement to those hours when they first started making me go down there), got told to be in in future earlier than the earliest train can possibly get me there, was given extra work "to keep you busy on the train" which I now have to do at home tonight because I didn't get a seat coming home and now have to go in again tomorrow because someone I'd arranged to work with today decided to go off elsewhere instead. Aaarggh!

Much more of this and I might just tell them what to do with their job!

Just a quick rant here ladies, all those who have a real problem to deal with please forgive me for being rude and butting in but I'm peeved.

My internet access is playing up yet again. I know there's been all this server virus business but it ought to be sorted by now and I still can't get into certain sites because everything is going so slowly. So I'm sulking, big style

I know its not all bad because at least I can get into Mumsnet but now I've read and contributed to virtually every thread on here so I need you all to do lots more posting for me to answer to. Please accept my apologies, rant over (for now).

GillW - has your boss actually realised that she or he has left school? They might as well have gone the whole hog and thrown in a detention while they were at it.

GillW, agree with willow about your boss, what an ase! how on earth can he think it's reasonable to tell you off for being 15 minutes early, especially after all that palaver?! And as for work to do on the train, well anyone who's travelled by train at rush hour in the last year will know it's not a picnic! It's your time* on the train they're begrudging, really cheeky. Also asking you to get there earlier than the earliest train is ridiculous! Here's a slap from me to him... PamT, hope your connection has speeded up too!

Today I have taken sick rabbit to the vet, and sick hubby to the hospital, he fell in the shower a few days ago and fell against the bath and has probably broken a rib, the hospital said they do not do x-rays anymore, and no longer strap it up, so basically go home and rest.

GillW, Sympathies. I used to teach in Islington but lived in Croydon and took 2 trains and a tube to work in rush hour every day for a pittance of salary. Your post reminded me why we left Hope the rest of the week improves for you and Pam and the rest of us moaners

Aaargh - got told today that they wnat me to do "more days each week" in London. No, no, no - I'd never have accepted the assignment to this project if they'd suggested that at the beginning, but now it seems I'm stuck and there's no easy way out. If I say no then I've been told that I'd get seriously marked down for lack of flexibility in the appraisals we have to have soon, and that means no payrise this year, or probably next as they look at the last 2 when making decisons. Unfortunately I'm now stuck between a rock and a hard place as I can't really afford to give up the job, and with the ttc situation I don't want to have to look for a different one and risk losing out on SMP. Don't know what to do for the best, but I need to sort it out somehow as the bs have had me in tears twice this week (actually that could be good news - how early do hormones cut in?) and I can't see myself coping with it long term.

Gillw, could you negotiate some kind of middle ground since this was not suggested at the beginning? I don't know, like video conferencing or meetings half way between or something? Don't know how realistic that is in your line of work though. Or could you make a really good business case for not having to do it? Money/time efficiencies by working from wherever you're based etc? Just a thought, like I said, don't know if it would be appropriate. Think your boss is even more of an arse now! Hang in there!

www - thanks for the thoughts. Unfortunately as the money/time savings would be mine, not theirs I don't think they're going to fall for the business benefits argument. Trouble is if I do spend more time down there than I do already it's getting perilously close to the stage where they'll argue that by getting a season ticket rather than tickets by the day it wouldn't be costing me any more than my current travel arrangements do. Never mind that it means 5 hours a day of my time travelling, that I leave before DS is awake and only just get home in time to put him to bed, that the house is a tip because I don't have time to clean it, that any social life (not that there's much now) goes totally out of the window when getting up at 5 means going to bed by 10....

Giving it all up and finding something local and less hassle, even if it does mean less money, seems increasingly attractive - but I'm not likely to get much support for that option either as DH gets paid more than I do anyway, and he doesn't see doing what they want as any big deal.

I feel as if I'm under attack from all sides - I just want someone to say that I don't have to be pushed into this, but all I'm getting from DH is "shut up, it's not worth bursting into tears about".

eeek! Sorry to hear this Gillw, how annoying! Can't you argue that you deserve to be paid for the 5 hours travelling and therefore the enormous raise they will owe you means you are saving them money by not doing it?! OK, grasping at straws for you here Mmmm, that's a helpful response from your DH! Not. Hope something changes soon.

Hmmm, I have my own work worries. I have been doing a lot of work recently, and I mean A LOT for which I should be paid for. They said the cheque would be sent out on Tuesday and it hasn't arrived. It's a real bummer as my birthday is on Sunday, we were meant to haul the boat out for it as last year, my 30th, was really crap. But as we are massively overdrawn I was relying on getting this money to pay off the bank and treat ourselves this weekend. Plus my period is due bang on my birthday and I can already feel the PMT closing in.

Oh and I'm having a bad hair day too! And all my clothes need ironing but I can't be bothered, and my favourite jumper has holes in it that are now getting out of hand, and I'm bloody cold!

rhubarb, that missing cheque isn't from netmums is it? I read some previous posts on it, and almost decided to join up, but was put off by the weekly workload (and lack of financial reward) once you had set up your local site.

Hi Tigermoth. Yes the missing cheque is from Netmums, although I've now been told that they were only posted on Thursday - still should be here by now though! In their defence, it's not just finances that is so good about being a site editor, it's meeting people that you wouldn't normally talk to, gaining confidence on the 'Net and doing something you ultimately feel proud of. Hopefully when I go back to work, my CV won't just read "full-time mother for 3 years", but "mother, web-site editor and designer and voluntary worker". It gives you tons of experience with web-design programs, plus people-skills. Also, as well as the £500 for setting it up, you get a decent bottle of champers, Christmas pressies, and £1 for every member that joins, plus all your expenses. So it's not bad. And I never have an excuse now for something to do with dd, I just have to look on my own site for what's happening!

But I'll let you know if that missing cheque arrives! It does seem all above board, I had to register as self-employed and everything, so I should imagine I will get paid - sometime! It's just that you know when you arrange things around a pay cheque? Well I did that for this weekend, thinking we could go for a meal, I could buy myself some new make-up (since I'm still using sets I was bought when I was 18!) and really treat myself! You don't want to splash out until that cheque's in the bank do you? Also I find it hard to accept that I am now over 30, it's all very depressing! A 'friend' asked me today if I found myself going downhill now I was past 30 - she's only 26! Bitch!

rhubarb, hope that cheque is in your bank now, and also hope you enjoyed your birthday.

I know that waiting for missing cheque feeling. you spend the money a hundred times in your mind before it arrives, then it ends up paying the mortgate.

I am sure netmums will pay up. From what I've read on them they seem genuine, and if the cheques weren't materialising someone would have blown the whistle by now. As you say, working with netmums can enhance a cv - I was really torn between getting involved or not.

Cheque arrived today - yippee! It was posted on Thursday but probably due to bad weather, only arrived this morning despite being first class post! Am so relieved I cannot begin to tell you!

Birthday was ok thanks. Friends came round and we got very merry! Not bad really. Still depressing to be 31 though!

Hope you left the kids in a house down the road with a baby monitor on Happy Birthday - 31, you're a baby yourself!

Dear Rhubarb
If it's depressing being 31 I will be suicidal next birthday. BTW where's Custy, I am missing her posts?

At the moment everyday seems to be a bad day, most if it caused by ds1(7) his behaviour is awfull lately, i could just about cope thinking he was ok in school but his teacher called me in a few days ago saying he is really rude to most of his teachers, im getting to the point where i just want to give up, nothing we do works , i have times where i day dream of ways to leave and never be found, i love him so much but hate the way he acts, he is getting so behind at school because he just wont listen, we have tried all we can from punishing bad behaviuor to ignoring the bad and rewarding the good, he says that he behaves that way because he does not have many friends, but quite frankly im not surprised.When we get up in the morning its just one long battle, and its such a relief when he is at school, most of the time i dread him coming home because it all starts again, its like we never go through a day with out a battle and im getting so tired of it, i dont want him to grow up and just remember all the bad times , but at the moment thats all it seems to be, quite honestly sometimes i only get thrugh a day just thinking that tommorow cant be worse, but it allways seems to be.

hi everyone.

am very, very unmotivated at work atm - this is very bad as i have a team to manage and i'm convinced they've twigged how lazy i'm being. it's not a good example to set. although an uneven workload is a feature of my job and for example before christmas i was rushed off my feet. my projects are all doing fine, and i haven't dropped the ball on anything yet!. i hate feeling like this and it's getting me down a bit. ds was very whiny this evening (he's got a cold and is teething) - which i'm absolutely rubbish at dealing with, it drives me nuts! plus i got into a tiffette on another thread over stupid epidurals of all things! i think i need to get one of those "don't sweat the small stuff" books. just feeling a bit of a failure today. am now relaxing with a glass of wine. my supposed diet is going very, very badly!

feel better now, thanks for listening!

bossykate, I bet you're not being as lazy as you think you are. I think if you're a deep down lazy person (as I am - not saying you are) you often think you're being lazier than you actually are IYKWIM. For me, it's to do with thinking the lazy police will catch me one day even though I think I probably overcompensate for my inherent laziness with quite a lot of hard work quite a lot of the time. And as you say, you do work hard a lot of the time so I think it's ok to give yourself some slack.

One of the only useful things I got from that sweat the small stuff book was to ask myself the question: "will this matter in 100 years time?" On very bad days the answer I give myself is No. It won't. Because I'll be dead. Great. Know the feeling about diets, am lard arse myself atm and have not improved matters by sitting watching tv and eating chocolate with ds all afternoon and drinking wine now. Hope the wine is kicking in and tomorrow is better!

Well, as bossykate and ks are having a drink, I though I'd say BOTTOMS UP as I'm having a Large glass of Wild Pig. After the day I've had it could not get worse (hopefully)

ks, i am blushing, you are very kind! i'm glad my advice was useful and i look forward to having a drink with you at the weekend!

www, yes deep down i am very lazy, and i constantly have to fight this demon! which means i'm usually rushing around like mad... totally understand your comment re the lazy police, i live in fear of that knock on the door. don't think i am entirely rational on the subject actually!

thank you very much for your posts yesterday, feeling much more positive today (have been much busier!)

thanks again

My dh has the trots and has been lying on the sofa all day yesterday, and sighing and tossing and turning through the night, my dd has had me up all night throwing up and just thrown up again all over me, my bloody period has started and I am in agony - oh and the toilet's broken so we can't flush it and are having to throw buckets of water down instead!!!!!! Ho hum, I am OK really!!