Anyone else having a bad day?

[PamT]

I woke up to hear DD yelling at 5am with an extremely stinky nappy - no going back to sleep there. So I went downstairs, switched the computer on and received 3 e-mails all containing the Klez virus, fortunately dealt with by Norton's Anti Virus before they did any damage but it took a bit of sorting out and checking. DD was in a foul mood and wouldn't eat breakfast so most of it went on the floor.

Yesterday wasn't much better, I was woken by the neighbour's car alarm going off at 5.30am and managed to get a stone chip in the car windscreen on the way to playgroup, not a bad one but right in the line of vision so the screen will have to be replaced and unfortunately isn't covered on the insurance.

Grrrrrrrrrrrr! Hope tomorrow is better.

You poor thing - well done on not causing criminal damage to your neighbour's car - would have felt good temporarily, but a bill for the damage would have made today even worse - maybe you could park DD outside your neighbour's house tomorrow so that they get woken up at 5.30 by his screaming (or his nappy!!).

Yesterday was bad for us as we went nursery visiting. DD is only 6 weeks and the trip broke my heart - we're not looking for a place until November but it looks like we should have got his name down somewhere before conception!! Now we have to choose between getting a confirmed place and paying the hefty deposit at the nursery that was our least favourite (but still happy with)or staying on the waiting list for our favourite one and risk not getting a place at all. DD screamed the whole time, so I wouldn't be surprised if none of them accepted him!!!

Hope your day gets better!!

KS, my problems pale into insignificance when I think of what other people are going through, but I do like to feel sorry for myself from time to time. I hope DS is better today, have you made an appointment to see the optician yet? Please put an update on the board when you have been. Its really worrying when you know that something is wrong with your child and you can't do anything about it.

Kyliebump, I like your idea about parking DD outside the neighbours' house so that they get an early start. I don't envy you with the nursery business, you need to be happy with the place where your child is going to spend time away from you. Do you know any other parents who use the nursery that has a place, perhaps they can help you make your mind up. When my DS1 went to nursery for a visit at 18 months I couldn't talk to the owner because I kept filling up (I'm really soppy like that and I still cry when he sets off on school trips and he's 9). I'd like to be able to say that I would wait and see if a place comes up at the favourite nursery but in reality I am the sort of person for whom if things can go wrong they more than likely will, so really I think I would secure a place and live with it. You could try pestering tactics on the favourite one. Good luck.

PamT I've had a bad year but today the sun is shining down here and I feel good!!

I thought yesterday was a bad day till I read other peoples problems.

Now I just think it was a mildly disappointing one.

August the 1st though is looming and that could be very bad for me so if it is I will be back on this thread.

SimonHoward, what's happening on August 1st? Have I missed something from another thread?

PamT

Not missing anything.

I will find out on that day if I still have a job or not.

The main trouble is it is 6 weeks before DW wants to start trying for baby No2.

You don't work for an electronics company in the North do you? I know someone else in exactly the same position. What a position to be in, especially with DP wanting a baby. Sometimes these things turn out for the best and you come out of it better in the long run but the uncertainty is the nasty part. I wish you well and will keep my fingers crossed that things work out.

PamT

Thanks and no I don't.

I am having to consider that i may be forced to sell up and move to get a job though with a toddler and a pregnant wife.

I'm sorry to hear that Simon. I was made redundant three times in quick succession last year, but have come out of it fine. I now work for myself! I remember, the third time I felt quite cheerful. Sort of, here we go again. I do remember feeling very upset and worried the first time though, so good luck. I hope the outcome is what you want, and if not, then it proves to be a heavily disguised blessing.

Oooh, aloha, fancy you talking about blessings

sorry if im too morbid but my gran died today aged 90 was well up until two weeks ago now shes gone. It hasnt really sunk in yet. Im dreading the funeral as we have a big family and some of them dont get on with each other. my father hasnt seen my gran for five years and didnt see her when she was ill I havent spoken to him for four years so I dont know how Im going to handle it seeing him (thats if he bothers to turn up).

Dear Trudles

Am very sorry for your loss. I hope this sad time can in some way pull your family together rather than divide them further. Love oxocube xx

Trudles

Sorry to hear about your loss. My condolences to you and your family.

KS

Off colour remarks now?

Next we will be accused of being sexist over calling god male.

Sorry to hear your loss Trudles, my own gran died when she was 96 and she was much loved. It does hurt and the funeral was awful, but I feel she is still close to me, as I'm sure your gran is still close to you.

My bad day stretches to bad weeks! Builders leaving us with a half-finished job, rubble all over the garden, dd tripping over said rubble and banging her head, lots of heated phone calls to builders, charity do to organise that is not going well due to lack of interest, brother staying with me with learning difficulities, so it's like I have two toddlers in the house, college work to be done, own dd going through toilet-training so lots of soaked bedclothes and no washing machine due to said builders.... I'm getting so stressed that I'm actually having chest pains! Last week I thought I was pregnant as my period was late, that was pretty traumatic too. I just hope everything gets better for everyone soon - England winning would be a huge bonus!

Simon I thought you were going to say August 1 was your 40th Birthday. My dh has been in your position when our dd was a baby, it is scary at the time but you will get another job I promise you. Rhubarb, I have just said goodbye to my builders and the worst part was paying them the huge amount of money at the end. COME ON ENGLAND!!!

Trudles-so sorry to hear about your grandmother, hope the funeral goes ok and that you can celebrate her life without the worry of inter-family conflict with your dad and stuff. Will be thinking of you.

Trudles -sorry to hear of your loss. I lost my nan who was like a second mum to me, and I agree with Rhubarb - our loved ones are always close by. I'll be thinking of you.

SimonHoward- how horrible. We've had a similar situation in our family. Hope all goes well.

I'm having a bad day, too although not as bad as many others so I apologise for feeling sorry for myself. Dd's tummy problems are still bad, we think that we've cracked the wind problem but she's now constipated. I feel as though I am to blame for not breastfeeding, but dh says that we should be thankful that dd is here at all. Of course I am, but it's precisely because of her bad start in life that I should have been braver and carried on b/feeding. I can't stop crying about it. Also dd is sleeping at all the wrong times so we never go anywhere or see anyone, the one time we went out for the day the buggy got a puncture and then I caught a cold which triggered dd's tummy problem. I'm starting to feel like a hermit.

ionesmum, what is dd's tummy problem. My dd suffered terrible constipation, sleep disturbance and stomach cramps which all turned out to be due to a milk intolerance. I'm not saying that this is your problem but have you considered that it could be dietary related.

ionesmum, lots of us don't believe there are any 'wrong' times for a baby to sleep. I think you are giving yourself unnecessary stress (and you do sound very stressed and down) by thinking like this. I can only recommend you go out as much as possible with your daughter. With my ds all my problems with him diminished when I was out and about. Just going to a cafe and having a coffee or visiting friends with or without babies, poking around the shops, whatever. If she goes to sleep while you are out, that's fine. If she doesn't but has a good look around, that's fine too IMO. I don't put much store by routines and my ds, despite his erratic napping is very content and cheerful. More importantly, you say you are crying a lot and feel a failure and from this and your other posts I am concerned that you may have post natal depression. I think it might be wise to see your GP. ALL babies have wind, and very, very many get constipation. Lots of my friends have bottlefed babies and they are absolutely fine, so you mustn't blame yourself. However if you do have PND you won't be able to really believe this. I am so worried about you. PND is just a medical condition, not a sign of failure. You are not a failure, you are, like the rest of us, doing a difficult job the very best you can.

BTW my breast fed baby who is so happy now didn't sleep through until he was nearly 8months. He used to wake up every 2-3 hours. I know it is miserable but it's nothing to do with you or anything you do IMO. Some babies just take a lot longer. As long as you make sure she is fed, warm etc then you may just have to sit it out, but do try to sleep during the day (ask a relative or friend to mind your dd for a couple of hours when things get bad and just go to bed).

Ionesmum - sorry I don't understand (but its getting a bit late for me!) - how did you catching a cold trigger DD's tummy problem?