So where do you all stand?

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A friend and I had a debate. dp and i planned for our ds. We knew to an extent that our lives would change. Mine moreso than his. We decided that I would work p-time as dp earns more than me and I was happy to do so. Therefore I am the one who is at home and takes care of the housework,general day to day care of ds,dinner etc.DP takes care of ds while I am at work and does his fair share of diy and dinner occasionally,etc. I also tend to go out less,my choice as I feel that going out every weekend would have a bit of an impact on ds as i work eves as it is.
Friend disagrees,she and dp didnt plan for ds and she decided to go back to work and put ds in creche.She goes out most weekends with or without dp and sometimes they leave ds with in laws and both go out separately.He works full time she part time and she says that I should go out more and enjoy myself.

I do go out sometimes on my own for dinner or shopping with friends,sometimes with dp,but most of the time with dp and ds. because thats what we wanted,to be a family and enjoy time together.

Just wondered what ur thoughts were.

Although I could have been like Flossam's SIL but that would never have occurred to me.

I stand in my living room mostly.

Oh, sorry.

Some of you seem to have got the impression that I never venture out alone! I do but when it suits me, it just doesnt have to be evry weekend.I am very close to my mum so if i go out its normally with her and a couple of mutual friends( i have one of those relationships with my mum that everyone at school used to reckon wasnt possible,shes my best mate and confidente(sp!) ) DP works 6/7 days so when we get time together its lovely. Our quality time together is when ds goes to bed and we watch a dvd together.

I agree with you nikkie I dont want to be to hungover / tired to spend time with ds.

And donbean I do enjoy myself whether I am with friends or dp and ds xx