Why on earth do people go for huge, elaborate, thousands of pounds weddings, if it causes so much stress? I just don't get it.
when we were married we set a date 3 months ahead (not a Saturday), I found a dress I liked without loads of agonising and taking mother/friends to help me decide, and invited 40 people, which was more than enough. The only stressful bit was finding the right restaurant to hold the lunch, because all my favourites were too small to seat everyone in the same room. But we just spent a couple of weeks going out for lunches at places we hadn't tried before, to test them and picked one.
I can't imagine why (or how ) it can take a year or more to organise one day, which is supposed to be a pleasurable start to two people's lives together.
Sorry, sidetracked. YL I'd try to grit your teeth and get on with it until after the day is over, then steer clear of the silly cow until she comes to apologise.