Shakinglikealeaf's update.

[shakinglikealeaf]

Hi
Thanks to so many of you who gave support at a very much needed time. I just wanted to let you know that April was pretty dire but I'm entering into May much more upbeat and positive.

Went to the EPAC unit yesterday and got wonderful news. I have miscarried successfully which means no theatre for me (sigh)H and I start mediation next week and he still continues to be a wonderful father (thank god, I was very worried for LO that he wouldn't be)

RL support is still available to me in droves which again makes me feel positive about the future and whatever life I may have, alone or otherwise.

I bought myself a really beautiful necklace to remind me of the baby I lost, I'm not ready to start wearing it yet but it felt right to buy it so did indulge in a bit of retail therapy in the end.

So to summarise, things have been dire, the outlook had seemed shitty but I was wrong, I'm going to have a rosey future again, I just know it. I'd like to also add that despite what happened to me I do think there are many, many wonderful, loyal, trustworthy men out there. Closer to home my wonderful father,brother, BIL and friends have reminded me of this.

xxx

so glad you're feeling more positive.

Much good luck for the future

Haven't been a mumsnetter regularly for ages but I have to say that your courage throughout this has touched me immensly - you are a very brave, together responsible woman and I would say get to where you and Lo need to be before you even think about getting back with him - but to me it seems like you have sort of resigned and accepted the fact that it isn't going to happen after what he has done to you and I applaud the fact that you have enough respect for yourself to see that.

Believe me there are lovely men out there as you have said - I first logged onto mumsnet about 3 years ago and the women on here really held things together for me when things were dire - I had split with XH and was fighting for custody of my DD - 3 years on DP and I are to be married in 3 months and I have a darling DS - life will get better for you and you will be happy - because above all - and you have shown it in your posts you really deserve to be.

(HIjack) - Hi Twinkie!!!

Hi - I always think of you on here cause you are named after my fave food!!!!

Am just on here for a mo as DP taken his brother back to his M&D's house so will have to pop off shortly - will come to the next meet up though if someone can mail me and tell me when it is.

(Hope you DS and DD are fine - DD did love you DS!!!)

All fine - not sure there's a meet-up planned other than the London Hyde PArk one in July.

Sorry for hi-jack

Right having to go now but will keep looking on here - pretty busy becoming a Mrs again in July but hopefully will catch up with you all this summer.

. Good luck going forard, shaking.

Thanks you lot!
Just another bump in case anyone who contributed to the last thread wants an update then I'll leave it alone.

thanks for bumping slal, glad to hear that things are looking up for you now. I wish you all the best