Would you remove your child?
Lorddenning1 · 08/06/2018 19:57
How would you handle this?
My 1 and a half year old has moved up from the baby room into the tiny room, he is settled and seems happy. He cannot walk and all the others kids can in his group. He has taken around 10 steps but he is gaining his confidence, it won't take him long.
This week has been horrendous for accidents, marks to his face, bumps to his head, scratches on his face, I have signed an accident form everyday this week. I picked him up today and he has a cut under his eye along with a black eye, I have been told he has pulled a tray out into his face, he didn't cry much and it didn't bleed. He looks awful, with the bruises, bumps, black eye, he looks like he has done 10 rounds with a boxer :(
I'm upset as again is another accident form, I had a word with the manager and she could see I was upset, I asked her if the room was too big for him and if he needed to be put back into babies and she reassured me that this happens when a kid is toddling and exploring, to be honest I'm not that happy with this response, I don't want to sounds precious as I know accidents happen but can they happen this much?
soundsystem · 08/06/2018 20:00
I wouldn’t be happy with that! I was had previously been happy and he’s settled I’d ask for a meeting with the manager to discuss, with a view to moving him back to the baby room until he’s walking properly. The response I got would determine what I did next.
OnTopOfSpaghetti · 08/06/2018 20:06
No I wouldn't he at all happy with that. If he's only taking a few steps he needs proper supervision. I'd be really upset
Lorddenning1 · 08/06/2018 20:14
I am upset :( I pay a lot of money for childcare and the nursery is classed as 1 for Offsted, he likes going, he has his little friends and has good bonds with the new staff, but this week has been really bad, I also don't want to be a parent that moans every time something happens as I have already spoken to the manager in the past as he was left in poo once in babies and he was red raw and in a lot of pain, she was understanding and it has never happened again and I was happy about this :( I don't want to rip him out and send him to a new place as he is settled but I also want him to be looked after properly
oobeedoiwannabelikeyou · 08/06/2018 21:08
My 18 month old has had an accident form every day for the past 2 weeks and she's still in the baby room. I see it as they are toddlers, they toddle, they fall, they bump.
If it's a new room he's exploring and trying to play with everything and coming to grips with all the new exciting things in the class.
I personally wouldn't stress about it unless he was continually hurting himself on the same toy/unit/piece of equipment then I would be questioning if it should be in the class.
I can pretty much guarantee you that the manager will have spoken to the staff about your concerns and they will all be more aware now. (I'm also a nursery practitioner)
IMBU · 08/06/2018 21:14
I would be having some very strong words with the nursery manager on Monday if I were you. They know he is unsteady on his feet they should be watching him more closely.
MynameisJune · 08/06/2018 21:16
The tray thing isn’t great, what kind of tray was it and why was it there? The others sound like normal toddler issues, they seem to go ages without incident and then have a raft of them all at once. DD has had black eyes from falling and hitting the bookcase at Nursery. Was just bad timing that she fell near the bookcase. It has rounded corners and protection but it still bruised.
If he is just starting to walk then it’s likely he will fall over quite a lot.
I don’t think I’d pull him out, if they were happening and they didn’t know why/weren’t filling out forms that would be worse for me.
Octopeppa · 08/06/2018 21:23
I vote take him out. It sounds like there isn't good enough supervision.
insancerre · 09/06/2018 09:18
I think you do have to accept that on a group care situation accidents will happen, especially with a child learning to walk
I get that it's upsetting when your baby moves up from the baby room but he does have to move on. He can't stay in the baby room forever. They will need his place for new starters
On the accident form is there a space to write any comments?
You could record on the form that he has had lots recently
Accident forms are usually collated and analysed to look for patterns and ways to minimise future accidents
But, you do have to realise that it's normal for toddlers to have accidents
JiltedJohnsJulie · 09/06/2018 09:26
I’d say it was pretty normal in group care. Babies learning to walk really need one to one and even then you’re unlikely to eliminate falls and bumps. How the manager handled your concerns would be the deciding for me though.
If he’s otherwise happy I’d leave it another couple of weeks before you decide. Once he’s walking more confidently the bumps may stop.
TryingToForgeAnewLife · 09/06/2018 09:32
They do have accidents but that does seem a lot in a short space of time. Are they self inflicted i.e him falling or from other children....
Also it does seem strange that it has only just started since he moved rooms. Surely he was toddlerling before moving rooms so he'd have had accidents previously. If not... why now is he suddenly having them in the new room.
I suspect the supervision isn't as good as ratio drop according to age and its the more mobile children causing the marks
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