Having second thoughts about sons nursery
Stephthegreat · 10/04/2018 09:39
I posted here a few weeks ago.my ds who is 3 loved his nursery.i withdrew him following some photos the nursery put on Facebook of the children in their underwear doing messy play.Its a public page and I was very upset about it,the manager is of the opinion children will be children and didn’t apologise.
There was also an issue of them being understaffed and using a caretaker who was a friend of the managers to help them out.I wasn’t too happy about him being there because he had no training with children.
Now I’m looking for another nursery but my ds is sad not to see his friends from his old nursery.im wondering did I do the right thing? Did I overreact?
BergamotMouse · 10/04/2018 09:53
Surely the Facebook photos thing is against all data protection rules?? Ours puts pictures up but you can never see faces.
And the caretaker thing - was he CRB checked? What was he doing to help out? Doesn't sound like a very well run nursery.
I'd say go with your gut.
WickedLazy · 10/04/2018 09:54
I wouldn't be keen on those things either
Afreshcuppateaplease · 10/04/2018 09:54
Had you signed any consent forms regarding photographs?
JackietheBackie · 10/04/2018 09:58
What was the response from Ofsted? I remember your previous thread, and I think you did the right thing. Your concerns were completely minimised by the Nursery Manager, which was as much of a deal breaker as anything else. He will make new friends.
Stephthegreat · 10/04/2018 10:00
I signed the consent form but never thought to look at their policy on photographs.As far as I was aware the photos are for ds learning logs at nursery and I assumed the ones on their public Facebook page would be of him in clothes - not underwear!
The caretaker appeared one day at the nursery when I was picking up ds.Id never seen him before.Probably just a coincidence but the day the caretaker was there was the only day they’ve done messy play in their underwear.There are lots of pucs on Facebook of the children but none until that one occasion with them in their underwear.
They are quite old fashioned which I used to like but now I’m thinking this is very poor judgement on their part and what next?
Stephthegreat · 10/04/2018 10:01
I’ve heard nothing from Ofsted just that they will investigate the matter.I imagine they will have to do something about it, it doesn’t seem at all right to me.
JackietheBackie · 10/04/2018 10:07
You could also contact your local Children's Safeguarding Team (details should be on our local council website) and ask them to investigate it.
She is right, children should just be allowed to be their own wonderful innocent selves. However, at the very least it is an invasion of their privacy to post pictures of them in their underwear on a public forum when they cannot possibly consent to it. At worst, it could be the first steps in grooming a child for further abuse.
The whole situation smelt rotten and I would want it taken further.
Kirta · 10/04/2018 10:37
Please contact the LADO at the local authority. They look into any concerns of potentially harmful behaviour of adults working with children. They would be interested in hearing about the messy play and seemingly casual staff (although he may have a dbs but other pre employment checks would need to to carried out also). I'd be concerned, and think it does warrant some further investigation.
Stephthegreat · 10/04/2018 21:04
I think it’s all been made worse because none of the other parents think it’s an issue.i live in a small village and my friends dc are still at nursery and my friend thinks I’m just making trouble over nothing.
Since my conversation with the manager I’ve heard nothing from the nursery,I feel very disappointed and upset that they have dismissed my concerns. These were people I trusted to look after my ds and thought I had a good relationship with.
I will look up the local safeguarding team,thanks for the input.I really have doubted my instincts on this mainly because of the other parents reaction. Hearing other people views on this has really made it clearer for me that something is badly wrong with this nursery.
ryanolivas · 13/04/2018 09:46
I think you just did the right thing for. It's natural for us, parents, to react in that matters.
thethoughtfox · 13/04/2018 11:14
An unqualified man around children? Children who are unusually in their underwear? Every sense I have is tingling. My child would be out of there and the authorities would be involved and investigating .
thethoughtfox · 13/04/2018 11:17
Always best to be too careful. You can't take back a childhood that is marred by being abused.
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