Is this normal?

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DC (2) has just started nursery , first day today.
He was there 9-3 so had a dirty nappy and a wet one also. These were in his bag when I collected him , and have made everything stink! Is that normal to send smelly nappies back?
Also , he was just in wet (with water) trousers and no top when I collected him as he had got soaked through from playing with the taps in the bathrooms at the nursery , managing to destroy his original outfit and spare outfit I'd sent in.

Does this sound like he wasn't supervised correctly , as I can't understand how he managed to do this if he was being watched !

Not normal at the nursery I use!

I would hate the dirty nappy coming back but there was a thread here recently and it is common enough.
The top- I tend to tend to send a few spares as our cm does a lot of eater play etc. It is better that they are doing this type of thing and not stuck in front of a TV.

If you are feeling uneasy though - pop in unexpected - you will get a better feel for things

Not normal at my nursery either the worst thing I had was a phone Call saying can you collect him and do you have spare shoes 😷

Definitely not normal to send dirty nappies home with you.
But only having one spare change of clothes is a rookie mistake! My DD goes in with three spare leggings, three tops and some spare socks every day!

Yeah they also said at pick up, to send spare shoes and also wellies even though they have AstroTurf so no actual mud or real grass outside.
Would prefer him to be kept away from the taps if I'm honest!

They send my DD's nappies back from pre-school but it is in a village hall so they don't have the facilities to dispose of them. I don't mind as we are trying to potty train so I know how successful it's been that day depending on whether or not a wet nappy comes back!

She also comes out wet and grubby, I take that to mean she's had fun and just dunk her straight in the bath.

I would expect a two year old to be supervised in the bathroom tbh - the nursery we use has a stairgate on the bathroom area. Mind you, that's a pain too as dd has to get an adult's attention to use the toilet...

Dirty nappies home?! Did they tell you about this rule? We get dirty clothes home (pooey) at this nursery where a previous one used to rinse things out. We've just said to chuck pooey pants to avoid the stench!

When they say spare clothes, I've learned this doesn't mean 1 spare outfit. I pack about 3 trousers/tops and socks.

The poo nappy... ugh. That's rank. I've had pooey pants sent home (gross) but why don't they dispose of the nappy?

They do sometimes get wet and dirty so yes, it's occasionally normal to go through several changes of clothes. But even when they run out of your spares, they should have nursery spares they can put on him to keep him warm. Mine has occasionally come home with no socks on because she got hers wet, but it was when it was hot in the summer. At this time of year, generally I'd expect them to be dressed. Water play is a normal part of nursery though, so he will get wet and he will get messy/muddy from time to time. That's just what they do. But they should be changing him into clean, dry clothes to go home.

The nappy thing, no that's not normal, and I would have a word about that.

Some nurseries/childminders send nappies home so that is normal, but they should have warned you.

It only takes seconds for a child to spray the taps, and with a 1:4 ratio not all children will be watched every second. Send lots of spares!

What? Why do nurseries send nappies home? I find that ridiculous

I'm struggling to understand why the nursery wouldn't have facilities to dispose of nappies. Yuk!
Is it like a preschool or a day nursery?

Maybe take in a separate bag for dirty things.
And lots of clothes are good.
I thought most nurseries kept a supply of extra clothes anyway.

A nursery I once worked at had laundry facilities so would clean or at least dry clothes to put back on.
They had nappy bins too.
And children were supervised in the bathroom but sometimes the odd sleeve was missed and got wet 😊

Its a cost issue. Nurseries are being hit hard by government underfunding and need to save money where they can.

What the fuck?

No. Just no.

Send in a huge bag of clothes so he isn't without again.

Ask the nursery if they mistook the nappies for wet clothes and say you were just letting them know incase they had made a mistake. I see that other posters have experienced this but play silly with them and see if they just put them in their bin which you presumable pay for?

Hmm the nappy thing I wouldn't expect it in a commercial nursery (as opposed to a school or community one) but I know they are being hit hard with costs at the moment so lots of stuff that was included is now extra. What is not on is that they didn't tell you about it in advance, if this is the case I would expect nappies to be double bagged and they should ask you to provide enough nappy sacks to do this.
Clothes - mine only ask for a change of clothes and this has rarely been an issue especially once they are past the explosive poo stage as mess from activities is usually grouped together but occasionally they are a bit messy when I pick up but who cares if they've had a good day. I would suggest a couple of pairs of trousers and t-shirts as it's obviously not enough - perhaps ask nursery what they suggest.

I did ask about the nappies and they both looked sheepish and said "oh we don't have a bin yet", followed by "we don't get nappy waste taken away by the council so you need to take them home yourself". Hmm. I wasn't told this in advance, and it's so annoying as everything stinks in his bag when he gets home resulting in a full wash for clothes, bag, etc.
Grr!!

It's a preschool connected to a primary school , but run by a private franchise I believe. I have to provide lunches, nappies, wipes even though they charge the Going rate for the area!

Sounds awful. Could you use nanny liners and ask them to flush the poo? Also, a sealable bag, maybe one used for washable nappies or a waterproof stuff sack.

And while water play is fun, being unsupervised at the taps is not good!

I would make an appointment and discuss..

We use reusables so regularly got dirty nappies home. You can get reusable waterproof bags which zip closed and contain the smell. Even if they can't afford to bin the nappies the nursery might be able to tip solids down the toilet - this is actually what should always happen even with disposables.

Some boroughs are charging nappy collection charges even for domestic premises.
Commercial settings are increasing being told to buy separate outdoor bins and pay for incineration (including some cm's).
With many now struggling to survive because of low payments on funding its not always a cost that can be born.

Washing soiled clothes is against health guidelines and advice it to double bag and send home.

Thanks all, have given them a special bag to pop all nappies in which should keep the smells in!