my child comes back scratched every day

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hello all. my child's new nursery seems very nice on the surface, but is very much all about play. there isn't a routine and no one tells you what they have done in the day. i think they are near breaking point with staff members. ANYWAY, almost every day there is a scratch or big bruise on his face. normally such a gentle child and no problems at all at past nursery. i know the move may have disrupted him. we have talks daily about not hitting or scratching and i try to direct his throwing into throwing as aiming etc, into his toy buckets etc. i understand from the teachers that he may be starting it mostly, but as he really is a gentle and happy child, i am not sure. is this a phase that other mums have experienced please, or should i be speaking to the v harrassed nursery head about it? how they cannot have anticipated at least some of the fights and got inbetween the scrappers at least half the time, i do not know. maybe i am being overly hopeful and naive? x

I think you should talk to them and possibly be looking at your options for other nurseries.

Personally I would be teaching him not to throw toys, there may be other children going home with bruises due to his throwing.
I would question the fact that he's always being injured however.

i do teach him not to throw all the time, but thankyou for pointing that out to me!

Can you talk to his key person to find out what is happening? And you should be told what he is doing in the day. Sounds like the children are running amok! He really shouldn't be coming home with injuries.

They should have an incident form for you to sign if he receives any marks at nursery or in their care. T
hey are failing to meet ofsted requirements for safeguarding.

I would be concerned, hitting and throwing are fairly normal phases, of course you want to try to control that but they should have experienced staff who can also reinforce your message. No matter how your child behaves (or doesn't) they should have measures in place to deal with it, from a quiet child to an aggressive child they should be protecting all children from incidents. You have to speak to them about physical injuries if they don't see it they need more staff or be ensuring other measures are put in place.
If it were my child I'd be looking at another nursery but my child lost a lot of confidence from being hit daily and the preschool did nothing, he is now in a better nursery and it is fantastic I sign incident forms, they tell me they had to tell him off, he is confident an plays with other kids again but I wouldn't let it go so far again that it affects their emotional well being as well as physical you can only give them so many chances with your child's safety get it nipped in the bud. x x x