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What should I expect nursery to do?

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Littlemisstax · 24/03/2014 10:07

DD has been at her nursery three days a week for nearly 3 years. She is very happy there. X is new.

Last week I picked her up one day and she told me she'd hurt her lip as "X hit me with Y toy". I just reassured her and didn't think much of it. The following day she came out and said "X hit me in the Z room". I said to the staff that this was twice in two days. She said it had been logged and they are having problems with X and it's not just my DD. She came out on her third day and told me happily that "X wasn't there today."

So DD and X have two days in common. I'm obviously not happy for DD to be hit by X, but what should I be expecting nursery to do? I'm particularly concerned as DD is tiny and X is huge compared to her - and could do real damage. DD and X are in different keyworker groups already.

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HSMMaCM · 24/03/2014 12:52

I should think the nursery are keeping a very close eye on X, but these things can happen in the blink of an eye.

babybouncer · 25/03/2014 22:22

I would expect to be told about these incidents by the nursery - not X's name, but the fact that it happened and how they dealt with it.
For example, a few weeks ago when I picked up DD I was told that she had been bitten by another child, that they had both gone for the same toy and the other child had bitten her, she got a cuddle and was fine and they showed me the little mark that was left. (I wouldn't expect to be told who had done it, though).

If I was the parent of the biter, I would expect to be told about the incident too so that I would know it was happening and what sanctions the nursery was using.

I've never worked in a nursery, but as I understand it, if there is a particular child who is an issue, the staff are aware and have strategies to target and avoid other children being hurt. Of course, it isn't always preventable - kids are kids - in which case the other party's parents need to know what has happened.

Boris13 · 26/03/2014 06:13

The staff seem to be aware of it. Altho, they shouldn't of disclosed anything about this child.

They will hopefully be keeping a close eye on the other child and had a meeting with the other child's parents, writing a Idp (individual development plan) together for this child so all STAFF are aware and all following the same strategies with him.
At 3 I would like to think this gets sorted pretty quickly, it's alot harder when they are babies and don't understand..

If this continues then arrange a meeting with the staff and make sure they are doing things to protect the other children.

Littlemisstax · 29/03/2014 14:43

Thanks ladies. X hasn't been at nursery this week (he's been ill) so we'll see what happens when he's back.

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