If a nursery conplains about your 2.5 year olds behaviour....

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What do you want the parents to do about it?

Ds loves nursery (he goes a couple of days a week) but his key worker mentioned that he is not following instructions, routines etc

I am not sure what she wanted me to do about it, and didn't know how to ask this. So I was wondering if those with more experience know?

Background: he is probably more active and energetic than most children his age. He tends to play with older children at toddler groups/ parks, running around etc. We do have be 'parenting' him a lot more than some other parents it seems in regards to his behaviour and he always needs to be watched closely, but he really is not that difficult to deal with.

ask your key worker what methods they use, as you would like to be consistent with them. you get insight into what they're doing, and perhaps a little useful advice, plus it opens the opportunity for you to give feedback if you don't think your son is being handled correctly.

Thanks I will ask next time he's in. She didn't mention what they do, so that will be interesting. I've seen them deal with behaviour issues from other children in the past when picking up/dropping off but didn't think to ask for specifics.

she 'mentioned' it...

You need to sit down and have a proper discussion about it.

What to introduce, how they deal with things, how you do, both need to be following the same route and doing the same things..

The nursery can do a IDP - Individual development plan where there are set 'targets' and how everyone is working to achieve these, this is then shared with all staff who look after him, and everyone is following the same thing and your son isn't getting mixed messages..

Good luck

Was she complaining, or describing his behaviour?

You have to remember that although your child's behaviour might be fine at home, in a group environment, away from home they might be completely different.

There are different rules, a busy, often noisy room with a lot going on. Plenty of distractions, staff from different backgrounds/training/personalities.
There are so many reasons why your child may be exhibiting this behaviour at nursery- even though you see none of it at home.

The keyperson's observations may be an indication of many things, but essentially she is starting a dialogue with you about your child's coping & involvement within the group learning environment. The nursery needs you to listen, not get defensive. Be open & honest and be willing to work in partnership with them, so they can support your child in moving forward in his learning and development.