Am I overthinking?

[Ejs890011]

I feel I am walking on eggshells all the time with my husband when it comes to sex.
he just asked if I wanted Funtime later I said no I am too tired ( we had a rough night with our 8 week old last night)
he said I can always get you in the mood. I said probably not, we only had sex last Sunday.
he then proceeded to say ok, but wonder last upstairs. Then sends me this message:
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I know things have changed so much for us both now and it can be hard sometimes to adapt to our new life and routine. Just want you to know something. There’s nothing wrong with having a nice cuddle in bed and being close. If things happen they happen naturally. That’s all I’m saying xxx
just makes me feel like i am on eggshells it shouldn’t be such a big deal.
am i overthinking?

Oh God. The awful pressure to ‘perform’, despite you already saying no. You are not overthinking it.

I will never understand how men don’t figure out that the weight of expectation is the biggest turn off of all.

I hope you weren’t continued to be pressured op.. Maybe post on the relationships thread for some advice on how to deal with this going forward, Newbie corner doesn’t really get the same amount of traffic.

www.mumsnet.com/talk/relationships