Hi all. First post, looking for thoughts and advice.
My fiancé and I have been offered to live with BIL about 6 hours away from where we live. BIL has a very large house and we would have our own 'quarters' and pay next to nothing in 'rent'.
Background- my fiancé has been having a few problems at work, most recently with him being demoted from his current position. This means that financially we may be slightly worse off but overall, fiancé will be happier as he is now back in a less stressful work role.
Both sets of parents are local to us. My parents being the furthest away, a 30 minute drive. This, in my parents eyes, is bad enough. They make me feel hugely guilty about living 30 minutes away. My Mam can't drive so I always drive to visit them. They never come to my house. My grandma passes away less than a year ago and my mother has struggled since. I'd feel so bad moving even further away from them. My brother and his family live about 3 hours away from where we are currently and I know this upsets my parents.
We have our own bought house with a mortgage that we could potentially rent out whilst living with BIL. I suppose the whole thing is a way of saving a lot of money and having the chance of living somewhere different.
Or will I be making a big mistake? Do I want to live with BIL and his family? Will they annoy me massively? We would have our own space but would still be technically in their house.
Help, suggestions please.