New to mumsnet and looking for impartial advice and support

[MermaidTail7]

Hey all.. Have just joined mumsnet... Hoping to find a space for advice,support, and occasionally a bit of perspective...

Sounds about right. If you're looking for constructive advice on serious issues then perhaps stick to Chat or specific topics rather than AIBU.

Welcome

Thank you Actually... That's good advice, hello to you and JJJ!

Get carers for daughter wondering if any help with a hoidasy thanks.

Hi!
I'm also new. I would really like help with what these code words mean if anyone can shed some light!

Which words?
IRL in real life
SHL shit hot lawyer
HTH happy to help (think this is a bit sarcastic...)
PBP previously banned poster
The Ds refer to various family members
STBXH soon to be ex husband

There's a glossary somewhere...

Welcome!

Never argue with people who comment negatively and unhelpfully. Some of them thrive on it and come back to rant a bit more! Must remember own advice.

Yeah it's the DD thing I'm confused about. Trying my hardest to work it out but thought it best to just ask! Also the AIBU? What does that stand for?

Dear Daughter.

If I mention DD1, DS1 and DD2, it means my daughter, son and second daughter.

AIBU, am I being unreasonable.
YABU you are being unreasonable.
YABVVU you are being very very unreasonable. DO NOT POST THERE until you are feeling very strong and confident. It is not a gentle place!

DD - dear daughter, DH - dear husband etc (or darling, or dearest, I'm not sure which is official).
AIBU - am I being unreasonable. Don't post here straight away!

It'll all come clear as you read.

There are a few, FOTTFSOFH that take a while- eff off to the far side of effing hell. But you tend to get the context after a while.

And learn how to name change so you can escape when you have made a mistake. I have a few extra names, very disposable for when I comment on really personal things.

If you talk about yourself, change a couple of details so you can't be tracked. Alter the order or sex of your children, change the region where you live. Just so if a friend IRL should happen to see your post, they can't recognise you from the details.

If it hasn't done it automatically, customising Talk so that ir highlights the OP (original poster) posts can be helpful. Otherwise you can accidentally advise on a hotel in Rome after the OP has decided after two pages to go to Madrid instead.

(Or something much worse, like advising to LTB. - leave the bastard- after OP has said he's agreed to counselling and they are engaged!)

And you'll see a lot of LTB. Leave the B..... Usually justified, occasionally a bit of an overreaction, often in jest.

Building on Helen's advice, RTFT. Read the effing (or full) thread. Reserved for people who chime in on page 43 with a completely irrelevant answer.

Haha! Thanks so much. I don't tend to have many 'mum' friends aside from my sister in law's so this is helpful. Thanks! Sorry to jump on your post mermaidtail

full list of acronyms here

I'm going to have to learn how to do that seeline. I don't think I can from an app though...

Thanks everyone...

that seems like what I'm on here for too, message me anytime!

www.mumsnet.com/info/acronyms

all you need to know with short acronyms

Great advice! Thanks for sharing. Just made my first post and am now worried it is too detailed. lol breath.