Hi I hope this makes sense and I hope I've got the right thread 🧵
My young adult child is 22 and rather young for their age they have ASD and ADHD recently diagnosed the epilepsy so as you can imagine it is rather challenging time for my child and the family and I have elderly dad that's another thread !
My child is under the NHS services and the hospital services and is having a lot of medication and basically their the education college was a disaster despite an EHCP plan I thought that they would be better at home trying to attempt online learning but that's another thread and another disaster I'm sorry if I sound so negative.
They enrolled in the NHS recovery college but due to their needs phobias of public transports which you would not believe and the fact I'm an on-driver we are still at home and I can't use them as a reference for volunteering work and this is where the problem is.
I have one reference for my child to attended the neurodivergent job support groups which is a positive and my other reference is reference and a neighbour who it tends our local church and basically after that we don't have any references for my child and I'm wondering if this is the problem why the charity shops seem to be so reluctant to take on my adult child who is willing and offering to help and wants to help weak days and weekends and I don't know if I'm going wrong but I go into the charity shop or positive and breezy very open and all is about my child's difficulties and how they want to help and how they've been diagnosed epilepsy but they've been on some medication for the last six months and it's only at home and it seems to be only at night time you know would that be a problem and we fill out the forms and we're all positive and then they don't come back or there seems to be an excuse why they haven't got a place for my daughter and we seem to be hitting a brick wall is it because I'm too open and honest about their additional needs including the epilepsy and the ASD shall I not mention it and shall I let them take my daughter on face value and actually let them you know know that my daughter is an asset and she is available to help and they're not doing me and almighty favor which is the impression I get.
Do you think it is because of the references or do you think it's because the manager and fellow volunteers don't want to have all the responsibility of supporting my daughter because they're not support workers or paid to do it
Charity shop was an animal based shop and the second charity was for young people.
I feel I'm going wrong somewhere and has anyone else experience this and if so what did you do reference wise and being open about your child's difficulties or did you just keep quiet hope for the best !!!