My DH disclosed to me, early in our relationship, that he's autistic. I've noticed loads of what I thought were autistic traits over the years. However, he was also a victim of verbal, physical, and psychological abuse by his 'D'M. DH has never had a diagnosis because "there were too many other problems" with his behaviour at school.
My DM has asked me if I think he's actually autistic or just psychologically damaged with traits inherited from his mother. I'm now questioning everything I thought I knew.
Is there any way to tell without him trying to get a diagnosis?