Any partners of autistic men here for mutual support and chat?

[Artmumcreative]

Are there any other wives or partners of autistic men on here? I'm neurodiverse in the respect that I have an acquired brain injury, DH is either autistic or has some sort of serious personality disorder. I don't know anyone else with an autistic DH/DP, would love to chat/mutually support each other!

I'm not sure it is about a partner being autistic as who they are besides this though a neurodiversity can bring with it a lot of difficulties as far as relationships are concerned.

What are your difficulties Artmumcreative What are you experiencing?

I am lonely within my relationship (chances are we are both autistic) as my relationship has broken down but I choose to stay. I have two friends who are autistic with whom I don't feel lonely so I think it very much depends on the individual.

I'm the autistic one in my relationship. I certainly experience challenges but I am committed to working things out with my partner.

What's on your mind OP? It sounds like you're really struggling if you think your partner may have a personality disorder or autism.

I am making huge assumptions here, so you'll have to correct me if I am way off the mark, but is there perhaps some negative behaviour within your relationship that is leaving you with an unbalanced workload, or leaving you feeling emotionally depleted?

If so, it doesn't matter what the root cause of the issue is, and it certainly isn't your job to try and find a diagnosis or a reason why to try and justify why he/she is like this. If you are unhappy, and you've discussed this and things haven't changed or if you feel like it isn't safe to discuss this with your partner then you need to put yourself first.

I understand that may be a massive leap, so apologies if it truly is, but there seems to be a lot of people coming to mumsnet to discuss these sorts of issues and trying to find out if there's a pathological reason behind unhealthy behaviour.