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Advise to get my child to poop on the toilet

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Aug12 · 28/02/2023 18:49

Hi there,

My 4, nearly 5 year old is still uses pull ups when he needs a poop. He uses the toilet for pees and hasn’t had an accident since he was about 2.5 but we cannot master pooping.

He has had a pre-assessment for autism and we were told that he displays a lot of traits - we can have a full assessment when he turns 5. Has anyone else with neurodiverse kiddos had this problem and what things helped? He has deferred entry to school due to not being ready so we thankfully have another year to get this mastered.

We have tried using the poo land app with no success and reading books to get. The health visitor suggested letting him poop in a nappy whilst sitting on the toilet as a starting point but we cannot even achieve this as it results in a meltdown to the point of making himself sick. I don’t want to make this a distressing thing for him as I then feel it’ll make him even more reluctant to try again?

On the very odd occasion we can get him to sit on the loo with his pants and trousers on we praise him a lot and let him blow bubbles etc while sitting there to try and let him see it’s not a scary place?

What age did your child master this? All tips & tricks welcome. Thank you

OP posts:
TheIsleOfTheLost · 01/03/2023 21:25

What worked for my neurodivergent child was a load of very expensive bribery. Chocolate button every time he sat on the toilet, regardless of going. Then star chart to a desired toy with poos being a lot more stars than wees. He was 4 and I thought we would never get there and be going to school in pull ups. Soooo many paw patrol toys that were ditched a year later, but worth it. He had issues with withholding, so movicol etc involved and didn't come off that for some time after toilet was mastered.

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