RSD when in a relationship helpful refraiming ideas please 🙏

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I am autistic, my other half may also be Neurodivergent. I get pushed away from skin contact or huffed at for asking for a kiss/cuddle/intamacy. I get anxious and upset and 'need' more affection but it is met with withdrawal and coldness.

What can I say to myself in the moment to drag myself out of the spiral of sadness this creates please?

No advice, sorry, but I do struggle with physical affection at times and feel uncomfortable. Talk to each other so that you understand more and can meet each others needs?
Hopefully someone knowledgable will join the thread.