I'm now 40 years old.
How long dare I risk it to TTC again, given I have got pregnant easily before. I just dont know ??
I have been very unlucky that my husband was very seriously ill ( and could have died ) when I was 33 and a few months after my DD1, now six was born.
The first two years of her life were miserable due to his my husbands illness.
I am very lucky that he recovered and I then got pregnant again very easily, but then I miscarried my second pregnancy at age 35.
I conceived again easily few weeks later, and it was twins.
Unfortunately I have had no family or support. We just moved area just before we found out it was twins.
So I found it very very hard with the twins first 2 years, in a new area, with an older DD1 who was 3 when they born.
I got PND, probably as I never had a break.
I found when I went out with all three, there was no time to meet or chat to other mums. Unfortunately the local twins club was no good as they meet at school pick up time and we can't go then.
I would like a forth child, but really want to wait until the twins are in full-time school.
I could NOT cope with a baby while they are at home most of the day and cannot afford child care. They are three years old now and still exhausting, ( especially combined with the school run 10 times a week which they hate but I have to do ).
Can I leave TTC until they start full time when I will be 42 and half or is that just crazy ??