I think dts are sick of the sight of each other.

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They used to get on so well, but the last few weeks have been a nightmare, all they do is hit and shout at each other, even nursery have commented that they are not getting along, any tips on what I can do? I have no way of seperating them for a while, either myself or dh are always at work, Id like for me to take one out and dh take the other out somewhere seperate for a few hours but we never get the chance.

Thay are id girls and will be 4 next month.

hopefully it will be temporary and they will get over it. My dtds still fight fairly often (about once or twice a day!) and we have no way to separate them either. Separation in school has helped alot though. We used to have to do exactly what you said - dh would stay at home with one, while i took the other shopping, and then the next week we would swap twin! I still do this in fact, in the school holidays, wehave some lovely chats, one-to-one.

Have you any way you could send one to nursery without the other occaisionally?

Is there any way that nursery can separate them to some extent, e.g. have them in different groups doing different activities etc. I can understand their point of view, as I am a twin myself, and was constantly fed up when I was young of having to spend all my time with my sister. As soon as I was able to go out on my own without anyone else, (e.g. into town) it was like a real freedom. But I can see how difficult it is for you to separate them if you both work at different times. What are your and your dh's hours? And do you have any other family living near, who could sometimes take one dd or the other out?

Nursery encourage them to do things seperately, but they dont push them in any way, it would probably be more hassle than its worth to send one and not the other, though that is my intention is one is ill, dont have any family that are ina position to help unfortunately. Dh works 70 hours a week, he only has sundays off, when I am working, I am hoping at some point they will form different friends at nursery and break away from each other a bit, I reckon once they try it, they will love it, I think it is starting to happen because dt2 used to be completely dependent on dt1, but she is starting to take initiative now, an a pretty sure that is what is frustrating dt1 and causing them to fight, the roles seem to be reversing, maybe I just need to wait until they find thier feet.

They are now getting to the age where they could start doing clubs eg swimming, rainbows etc - could you send the girls to clubs but different ones so that they have time alone with you and the other gets time alone and makes new friends etc.

When they go to school, is there the chance that they could be in different classes? This might really help. I know that my sister and I were always happier when in separate classes. I know this is not much help for now, though.

Thats an idea dynamic, will look into it. Not sure about different classes at school yet, will see how dependant they are when the time comes, also the school only has 1 reception class, so no chance of them being seperated before year one.