Just looking for some thoughts about this... Since about 18weeks with MCDA twins I knew that I would want a csec. I had a third degree tear with my first daughter and had to do it on my own (I was quite young too). It left me quite traumatised, but obviously not put off the idea of having more children.
However, I never accounted for the fact I would fall pregnant with twins. Discussed the prospect of a csec with my midwife who completely understood and saw no reason after the birth of my first why they would deny my request. I saw my consultant once and he at no point said that I couldn't have a csec and all other clinic registrars that I had seen after that gave the implication that I would be delivered by csec too (and would also tell me differing information on when my consultant would want to deliver my babies, which in itself has been frustrating and stressful). At 30weeks I still had not had a definitive date set for a csec and had not seen my consultant since about 22 weeks. We had to fight to see him and when we finally managed to he said that there was no medical grounds for a csec. It obviously came as a shock to us and accepted the second opinion he offered. It just feels that we were given no indication that our request would be denied and I'm now frightened of the prospect of the birth because I never had the opportunity to come to terms. I just wish we had been told categorically from earlier on, it may not be such a shock and disappointment now and I would have had time to research a birth plan and complications with twin births.
Has anyone else encountered this, got a second opinion and managed to still have a csec? Or am I being melodramatic? Any advice would be very gratefully received. Happy for some home truths if I am being unreasonable.