Twins Club 5! All welcome! :-)

[mandasand]

Hello! I was a relative newcomer to the last Twins Club thread. I thought I should start a new thread as the last one I filled up with a bit of chatter towards the end. The last thread was really useful to learn from others also carrying multiples and to get the benefit of recent 'graduates' (when they had a minute between sleeping and feeding newborns!)

I'm 37 and 16+5 with twins. I live in Oxfordshire with DH and these are our first children!

Be lovely to get some chatter going on the thread so please come and introduce yourselves :-)

Thanks cheeka.

I may ask if I can go in at 37 weeks too...

Ebf one baby is hard enough let alone 2 so the fact that you have done several weeks is amazing!!

I'm booked in for 37 weeks too, but with previous medical problems, they wont risk me going any later.

I agree amazing to even get that far with the BF. I am promising myself I will be practical and not beat myself up, just because I managed before, this time it will be more difficult.

I'm a bit fed up now. I don't want to say anything that would jinx it like I want them out soon ...but the next 7 weeks can't go quick enough for me! (if I get that far... fingers and legs crossed!)

Struggling with my 2 yo now and losing more mobilty by the day, although some days are better than others.

Anyone else boiling hot at night?

Yes to getting hot at night, especially my feet!
It's as if I want to stick them into snow to cool them down. And my boobs!

It's so hard being pregnant with a 2 year old to look after as they are so young and still need attention

Do you have any help blending? Is your toddler in preschool or nursery at all?

Interesting that another is being induced at 37 weeks too...

Hiya I have just found out I'm expecting twins but I already have a 5 & 2 year old so I am slightly terrified, any advice on how to cope, thanks x

Butterfly I'm not really coping...but I've had some great advice on the pregnancy board on ideas of how manage a little better.

Hi Shay, how far along are you?

Err not in a position to give advice yet, but I have just been on the phone to Home Start and they are sending someone out to visit, with a view to having someone pop in a couple of times a week to be an extra pair of hands.

They provide help to multiple birth familys, and I was a little bit worried about contacting them, thinking as both DH and myself work so don't get any benefits but they were great on the phone and said its about support, not means tested or for families in crises.

I realised that with a toddler and 2 x newborn I'm going to need some help especially as I'm finding it hard already!

Other avenues I'm going to explore further are the local college for Nursery/Nanny students who need placements, again they can place someone with you for work experience a term at a time if you have twins. They cant be left alone with the babies but you can pop for a shower, make a brew, or grab some lunch whilst there is a spare pair of hands in the house!

Unfortunately Fortunately my family all work, so no support there except for my Mum and she had a stroke whilst I was pregnant with DD, so whilst she would be great not practical.

DH is Dutch, and whilst very willing his family are all in the Netherlands, so any help means they need to stay here which brings all sorts of other issues! ( Don't want SIL here whilst I've got leaky boobs, bleeding all over the place,hormonal as hell, tryinging to establish breastfeeding and still feeling like I should be hospitable etc etc etc) And it would only be short term help anyway, for a few weeks or so.

Sorry I've waffled on again!

I'm almost 13 weeks so I only found out 2 days ago it was a Hugh shock, I'm not looking forward to all the extra discomfort I had it bad enough with my other 2, do u know if its possible to have them naturally x thanks

It took us a while to get our heads around it...not sure we have got over the shock yet Dh particulary didn't take it too well, but hes is now looking forward to it...almost!

What type of twins do you know?

Does your hospital have Twin clinics? I go every 4 weeks and have a scan and see the twin midwife, so thats a positive that we get to see them more often than singletons. Its perfectly possible for most people to aim for a natural birth, as long as the baby who is due to come out first(known as the presenting twin) isn't breech and you havent had any previous complications etc

Theres is lots of support and information, even just reading back over the twin club threads has been useful, and organisations like T.A.M.B.A www.tamba.org.uk/ (Twins And Mutiple Births Associaction have useful information on their site, and can put you in contact with local groups.

Take a deep breath, and relax, just think twice the newborn snuggles!

Shay I am 13 weeks too, but I found out earlier, I walked aroudn in a daze for 2.5 days but I am alright now. It's our first PG though, bit different!

blending I read about Home Start, and am definitely going to call them too closer to the time! I will be rallying up all the help I can get!
I am really keen to find a twin midwife, although there is a twin clinic at my hospital there is no MW that specialises in twins, well, not that I have found. Also I do get the impression that hospitals will push for a CS rather than natural, which is a shame because the experience on how to deliver twins naturally is disappearing that way!

I know after my 20 week scan I will have 1 every 4 weeks and have to go for a consultation every time and hopefully I will be able to have a natural birth then as both of my previous were fine, am a bit gutted I probably won't be able to have a water birth cause I loved that 😊x x

Oh and dcda twins x

Hi, Question time. I have a work trip that I need to plan to Dubai (hot). I will be 20 wks with twins at that point. I can move from aircon to aircon, that shouldn't be a problem. Travel will be business class, so pretty smooth. There's only a 3 hr time difference so that's OK too.

My boss doesn't want me to go, because she thinks I should just lie down in cotton wool.

Am I being silly to go on this trip? Or is the bump/tiredness still pretty manageable at 20wks?

Your view is appreciated!

I'm coming up to 20w and went to Cyprus at 18w. I stayed hydrated and in the shade and was fine once I'd acclimatised. It was a 5 hour flight which isn't far off what you'd be doing - if you're flying Emirates you'll have leg rests etc but asking for a bulkhead seat might be a good idea so you can get about more easily (unless you're flying business or first of course!).

Well I felt huge at 20 weeks, but I did get a spurt of energy around that time. I would be wary about having to manage any luggage though. How long would it be for?

If its business class I'm sure you'll be fine, although it will be hard to refuse the nice wines and pates that they normally offer!

Make sure you get insurence that covers pregnancy related issues, as most exclude it.

Later on than 20 weeks though you might just be a a tiny bit uncomfortable but you can't fly after 32 weeks with most airlines when you are having twins anyway so a moot point!

Oh and I would take confirmation that I was 20 weeks pregnant as I was nearly refused boarding on my return flight from Amsterdam when I was pregnant with DD and I was only 28 weeks- Apparently I looked 36+ to the staff on the gate!

blending extremely good point on insurance! I checked and they don't cover any pregnancies >18 wks if they are the result of fertility treatment and/or multiples! Bit harsh!

It sounds like I could travel, physically, but I am not going to travel without insurance, that would just be daft. I could potentially look in to private cover, but the trip isn't THAT important!

Thanks for your replies ladies!