ok, more to come!..todaya t nursery drop off with mindee the builders wife waits until we get into the very small stairway to class room, comes right up to my face and 'bellows' "HIYA"!..i say hi and carry on trying to help mindee up steps and she shouts in true fish wife style "eer, shes not talking to ME now is she...." and carried on blabbing while i walked away trying to get mindee away!
teacher asked what THAT was about so i told her and she was very unhappy with her, got home and rang builder and absolutely went through him..i first asked what his wife was doing shouting and bad mouthing me (a childminder with a good reputation) in the local nursery, then it all came out about him adding extras on, that in actual fact the top and bottom of his bank prob, 'was' in fact HIS problem, I didnt spend HIS moeny before the cheque had cleared, he did and wether he usually does that or not, he only has himself to blame, i told him im not comfortable with him any more, i find him unproffesional, his wife has underminded him and showed me up and i am going to get in someone else to finish the job!
he said he HASNT paid for my kitchen yet, despite this being his reason that he neeed the £3000 off me!
i told him that at no point did he say the extra plastering would involve ME paying the plasterer for extra days, he never said he was only there for 3 days, nor did he bring it to my attention when it happend!..i asked him to get a grip of reality and said I am faced with a £900 EXTRA bill to find and he and his wife are causing holy hell because HE has gone overdrawn and is NOW hit with a £45 fee!, i know which id rather have!
I then told him that i had been more than polite and patient and that a 7-10 day job was STILL not finished 5 weeks later, im not botherd if he had other jobs lined up, you dont get paid till youve done the job end of!.
His wife approached me AGAIN at nursery this afternoon and said "i want to speak to you, can you wait there a minute"... i say No and walked away i wasnt getting into another argument ..she followed me to were i pick my dd and other mindees up and waited until i was walking home before saying (although NOT apologising) that she was like she was cos she thought i was ignoring her!..to which i calmly replied i have nothing to say to you, i deal with my builder, who ahppens to be your husband, what i say to him is my business not yours and i do not take kindly to being shouted down the phone at then humiliated inside classroom. she then asked me if i was going to speak to her husband!(obv hadnt told him how 'nice' she was earlier and i said i already have and walked away all the while trying to be calm and look after the children.
ive got hom and rung my aunty who's a solicitor, shes said same as many of you...if i asked for extra's, i pay for them, but if job turns out bigger than he estimated for thats his problem and i do NOT need to pay extra labour when he should have(already DID looking at his quote) factored a little extra in.
She s said if anything comes of it to give her name and mention about him illegally employing this plasterer and hopefully it will sink in he is in the wrong..a bit of communication would have gone a long way, i could have either said ok, i agree to the extra work and will pay extra or no, you quoted this, im paying this..either way, its now got nasty and i have no idea where its going now..what a mess!