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Planning to buy our long-term family home in London (£3M–£4M budget) would love advice from people who know the market

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Marvickk · 13/07/2026 09:24

My wife and I are both 30, recently married, and living in London. We're starting to seriously plan our long-term family home and would really appreciate some honest opinions from people who understand both the London property market and how to structure a purchase like this sensibly.

A bit about our situation
We both work in demanding professional careers, with a combined salary of around £480k/year before bonuses (closer to £530k with bonus), and we expect this to grow over the next couple of years. Beyond salary, we each have investments and some inherited property assets a few overseas properties and a minority stake in a family vineyard came to us through inheritance, alongside cash savings and investment portfolios. Including our current apartment, our combined household net worth is roughly £9M, and passive income 140K yearly, though a meaningful chunk of that sits in illiquid or semi-liquid assets rather than cash.

We currently live in a apartment in London worth around £1.1M with no mortgage. Our plan is to sell it and add a further £1M or so in cash, giving us roughly £2.1M to put toward the new home, while keeping our other assets, investments, and inherited properties untouched. That would leave us taking out a mortgage of roughly £900k on a £3–3.5M property, which feels conservative given our income, but we want to make sure we're not missing anything.

We're hoping to start a family in the next few years likely two or three children and are already thinking ahead to private school costs on top of the mortgage, so we want the numbers to hold up over the next decade, not just look fine on paper today.

Our ideal home Requirements
A large master bedroom with a proper ensuite bathroom (big shower, comfortable space)
Rooms for future children
A guest bedroom
A proper home office for both of us
A large kitchen with an island we love the idea of the kitchen being the heart of the house
A comfortable living room
An entertainment space that could work as a small bar/music/games room for having friends over
A private garden with enough space to actually enjoy outdoor living

We're currently thinking about buying an older but well-located property around £2.8M–£3M and spending roughly £500k on renovation, rather than buying something already finished. Areas we're considering: Richmond, Barnes, Wimbledon, and Chiswick but we're open to other suggestions.

A few questions for people who know this world
1.Does this budget make sense for the type of home we're looking for, and does a ~25% LTV mortgage make sense given our asset mix, or should we be putting down more or less?
2.Would you prefer buying a finished luxury home or renovating an older property, given we're planning to have kids fairly soon?
3.Are Richmond/Barnes/Wimbledon/Chiswick the right areas for a young family, or are there other areas worth exploring?
4.Is it worth consolidating with a private bank for the mortgage given our combined assets, or does that not really move the needle at this loan size versus a normal broker?
5.What mistakes do people commonly make buying at this price range financially or practically?
6.Would a buying agent be worth it for us?
7.If you were in our position, what would you prioritize both on the property itself and on how we structure the purchase financially?

We're not looking for the biggest house or the most expensive postcode. We want somewhere that feels like home a place where our children can grow up, where we can host friends, and where we can enjoy everyday life while making sure we're being financially sensible about how we get there.

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3wouldbegood · 13/07/2026 14:36

This is our price range. Agree with PP that you will likely be better off in the long term not to use cash but to have a higher LTV. Appreciate that there is also a personality aspect to this though.

On the renovation question, you need to think about cash flow. On a joint income of £500k ish (is that gross?) and £140k passive income (same question) with presumably high expenses and possibly nanny costs, how are you financing a renovation that might be £1m+? Another argument against using your cash for the purchase. And do you actually want to be renting while you do a renovation at the same time as having a baby?

I'm a bit confused by the question about area. You live in London- you know what places are like, where your friends live etc. Where is your office? The areas you mention are lovely but to me they're all slightly further from town than I would like to be. Personally I'd look north as well- Highgate, Crouch End etc- something like this 5 bedroom house for sale in Southwood Lane, Highgate, N6. Hampstead and St Johns Wood might suit you but probably over budget for what you want so you would need to compromise somewhere.

Check out this 5 bedroom house for sale on Rightmove

5 bedroom house for sale in Southwood Lane, Highgate, N6 for £3,850,000. Marketed by Dexters, Highgate

https://www.rightmove.co.uk/properties/90552999#/floorplan?activePlan=1&channel=RES_BUY

NorthXNorthWest · 13/07/2026 14:55

cupfinalchaos · 13/07/2026 14:06

You’d get a small flat in Holland Park for that money.

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Oliveoy · 13/07/2026 15:03

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MNLurker1345 · 13/07/2026 15:06

cupfinalchaos · 13/07/2026 14:06

You’d get a small flat in Holland Park for that money.

Could still get in there. 3/4 bedroom apartment, 2,000 / 3,000 sq ft.

Certainly not a multi million ££ mansion.

My DH had one such, many years ago.

But agree, beyond the means of most!

LondonMum2026 · 13/07/2026 15:19

mondaytosunday · 13/07/2026 11:46

I can only speak to the property/schools. I don’t see how a private bank would be an advantage. But that is more a question for a broker.
I live in Wimbledon. You won’t get what you want ‘up the hill’ in the Village for your budget, which is where Kings College (boys til Sixth Form) is. But you would near the town and there’s Wimbledon High School (girls) which is good, and Kings a bus ride (though could be walkable depending). Where I live (3 bed terrace, £1.25m, but bigger houses around South Park around £2.5-3m) there are three very good/excellent state primaries which I’d aim for and then go private for secondary. The benefit of Wimbledon is trains to Waterloo plus a tube line, the Common and boutique shops in the Village and a vast range of shops/restaurants/gyms/entertainment in the ‘town’, though the loss of Debenhams and Covid have destroyed Centre Court shopping mall, and despite a rebrand as ‘the Wimbledon Quarter’ I’m not impressed. But Ely’s is still here! The Polka Children’s Theatre and Wimbledon Theatre are very well respected. Plus of course, there the tennis. We have a small Waitrose and a bigger one, Morrisons, M&S and just down the A3 a vast Tesco. It’s very family friendly and probably the better option transport wise.
Barnes I think as too isolated, especially with Hammersmith Bridge closed to traffic. There’s no tube and though a train it’s still off the beaten track. Though if a more sedate country feel is what you’re after then it fits the bill. Of course it has St Paul’s and the Harrodian schools.
Richmond I love. It’s about as far out you can get and still be in London (though technically I think it’s actually Surrey). Beautiful architecture, the river of course and lots of shops. My impression is it’s pricier than Barnes and Wimbledon if you want near the Green and station. I think if it as more young professionals than family but maybe because that’s what I was when I worked near there!
Older properties are always nicer in my opinion. There are a number of new executive builds in the places above, but none seem to have the character of period, and I’d rather that than mod cons like central air. There are plenty of period houses that don’t need renovating, but by their nature they do require more financial commitment to keep in good shape. Renovation will cost much more than you think 90% of the time! But I’d love to get my hands on a project. Mind you they don’t seem to sell for much less than modernised, and unless you are adding space you don’t really add much value unless it’s a total gut job and that doesn’t seem to be what you want.
Personally I’d sell some assets and go for something £4-5m. Or buy for £3m and have a budget of £1m to do up. I’d also go for Fulham. It has the benefit of being in Zone 2 but still has a leafy family friendly feel. I went to the open day at Lady Margaret’s (and excellent state all girls school) and it was Halloween. It was a wonderful sight watching the kids in costumes running around and one of the estate agents was throwing a Halloween party for them all. I have a small flat in Parsons Green where I plan to retire too - I could live there without a car.
I’d only use a buying agent if you’re really short on time.
Exciting times!

I'm Wimbledon - agree with everything you've said but Wimbledon shopping centre just got a new Lovisa, Oliver Bonas moved to bigger premises, M&S expanded and Primark are coming end of 26 / early 27 so it is improving (not that OP will shop in Primark lol!).

fartotheleftside · 13/07/2026 15:20

You'll have to decide how many bedrooms you want as that is the main filtering metric when looking at houses here.

The areas you've mentioned are very nice, but expensive even though they're out of London.

Look at Clapham, Balham, or Dulwich which are also lovely places to live, further in London and your money will go further also.

KittyCorncrake · 13/07/2026 15:23

Agree.
I’d go for Richmond - easy access by tube and rail. Loads of green space and private school options.

cupfinalchaos · 13/07/2026 22:15

NorthXNorthWest · 13/07/2026 14:55

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I know- ridiculous!

wheresmeaircon · 13/07/2026 22:38

Surely you have access to a financial advisor?

randomnamegenerated · 14/07/2026 00:03

First of all, do you not have an investment/financial advisor? If not, you should. They are best placed to weigh in on the most efficient way to finance a purchase like this. Private banks will give you better rates, but with a lot of them it can depend on how much you're willing to hold with them and whether you're willing to put funds into their investment products. We left Coutts when we realised we could do better with a smaller independent financial advisor/wealth management team.

So from your description, it sounds like you ideally want a 6 bedroom detached? Honestly, I think you're going to struggle to find that. I'm sure you can get something perfectly nice within your budget, but it's more likely to be a spacious 4 bed terrace or semi. I'd also be careful about planning an extensive renovation - London renos are a bit of a minefield at the moment. That said, I just did a search for Kew and there are several that look like they might fit the bill

https://www.rightmove.co.uk/properties/87648261#/?channel=RES_BUY

https://www.rightmove.co.uk/properties/88377018#/?channel=RES_BUY

As far as neighbourhoods go, I like Chiswick, I'd also have a look at Hammersmith, Brook Green and Queens Park, as well as the south London neighbourhoods a PP suggested. I suspect you could find something closer to your aspirational house in Acton or Ealing or Brondesbury Park. I don't know Richmond all that well, Barnes is lovely but with Hammersmith Bridge closed is a faff to get in and out of unless you're a cyclist.

JacknDiane · 14/07/2026 00:07

What i never understand about these sorts of posts on mn is, if you have the brains to earn that sort of money, surely you've got the brains to pay for professional advice?

Id ask people in mn advice on recipes etc, not how best to send £4 million quid

mylifeisexams · 14/07/2026 00:18

There are a lot of posts on MN lately with crazy amounts of personal detail like this.

GordanoServices · 14/07/2026 07:21

I don’t think this post is real. OP hasn’t returned.

parachutegirl · 14/07/2026 08:06

No idea why you’d come to Mumsnet for advice on this tbh.

RobinEllacotStrike · 14/07/2026 08:08

You should be able to get a nice fixer upper in Harlesden.

TeaAndStrumpets · 14/07/2026 08:18

GordanoServices · 14/07/2026 07:21

I don’t think this post is real. OP hasn’t returned.

He was wittering on about being married to his childhood sweetheart on another thread recently. Nice to know they are financially solvent despite their other troubles 😃

Tabarnak · 14/07/2026 08:25

If I had this kind of choice I would move to Herne Hill , specifically Stradella, Winterbrook or Burbage roads.

Beautiful houses, great community, Thameslink and London Bridge trains, all the Dulwich private schools (Jags, Alleyns, Dulwich College and their preps).

Dulwich Park, Brockwell Park, farmers market.

GordanoServices · 14/07/2026 08:31

TeaAndStrumpets · 14/07/2026 08:18

He was wittering on about being married to his childhood sweetheart on another thread recently. Nice to know they are financially solvent despite their other troubles 😃

I mean I’m not saying the scenario isn’t real but I’d expect someone with this amount of wealth to also be smart enough to see a Financial Advisor and not post on Mumsnet… also the level of detail (and nature of the detail… a vineyard!) I thought seemed a bit like … hey ChatGPT … write me a Mumsnet post that is a wealth brag to really wind people up.

Spottyvases · 14/07/2026 08:37

throwawayimplantchat · 13/07/2026 09:30

Your financial position is in the top 0.1% of the UK. It’s incredibly unlikely many people will be in anything close to it.

Wouldn’t it make much more sense to get professional advice from experts rather than asking on Mumsnet?

Yeah mate - this.

I have not recently inherited a vineyard; so could not possibly comment on anything about your 'situation'. Other than that I highly suspect this is a made up goady post.

Mosaic123 · 14/07/2026 08:38

Pay for advice.

TeaAndStrumpets · 14/07/2026 08:42

GordanoServices · 14/07/2026 08:31

I mean I’m not saying the scenario isn’t real but I’d expect someone with this amount of wealth to also be smart enough to see a Financial Advisor and not post on Mumsnet… also the level of detail (and nature of the detail… a vineyard!) I thought seemed a bit like … hey ChatGPT … write me a Mumsnet post that is a wealth brag to really wind people up.

I think ChatGPT would struggle to mimic the minutiae of your average Mumsnet post. A question about how often to launder the sheets in an unused bedroom, with a side issue of an interfering mother in law passing unwanted comments would gain more traction. If OP is real they have a rather longwinded style but heyho!

OwnHappiness · 14/07/2026 08:43

Why would a professional high earning man’s fist call be to mumsnet without having previously posted about kids etc when you have none? Just bonkers really. Yes I’ll post on a parenting forum about mu financial question when I clearly have a financial advisor woth all that going on

Appleblum · 14/07/2026 08:46

You would be better off speaking to an experienced property agent who specialises in more expensive properties. He would be able to provide you with guidance regarding areas to buy in, refer you to bankers, lawyers, builders, etc.

PrincessOfPreschool · 14/07/2026 08:49

In this day and age, with that budget, I would be looking at houses which can withstand heat. Most new homes are a bit rubbish. You want some really thick walls and stone floors, shady trees in the garden - or a house with Aircon.