This feels complicated so please bear with me, when I was 19/20 (2011) I ended up in a very quick whirlwind relationship and from that (2012&2013) I had 2 children (only 16 months apart) and the relationship was very controlled, violent at times, coercive ect. I actually had my 2nd at 33 weeks due to the stress I was under at the time.
with my first I fell pregnant pretty much straight away (love bombed within weeks), head games and menipulation was there from day one i just didnt see it because of the mental health conditions that i wasnt diagnosed with untill my early 30s but had them since childhood, i was convinced to move away from the area I lived, within 3 months of being pregnant with him so was isolated from my grandparents and dad (but the move was to where my mother lived but we had been estranged for years, im not sure if that is classed as isolation) more like a fresh start to manipulate me away from the people who has brough me up for the 10 years prev and knew me best, would see the signs of abuse quicker ect, my mother wasnt even in the coutry for much of the time i was growing up, and his nastiness started soon after and he was punching walls and showing big anger flags before I was 6 months pregnant with 1st.
That ended in 2014 and I became a single mother and had to claim benifits.
A good few years later i moved on and in 2019 had another child. As she was my 3rd she wasn't included in my UC claim but she was named on the claim as is my youngest on my new claim now (I changed from IS to UC the month she was born, in 2019) I continued my claim with the 3 children on there untill late last year. I also had another child last summer who I didn't add onto my claim as my mental health was In the tank so I just ended up canceling my claim when me and my partner moved in together. Things are not easy atm so this month (within the 6 month timeframe) I have restarted my claim adding my partner as a joint (not the first 2s bio dad)
I have literally tonight only just found out about the NCC1 form, previously I thought it only included r@@e victims not DV relationships without conviction. I've had the same health visitor since my oldest was 16months ish and my 2nd was just born, she has seen me through all the ending of the dv relationship, was my hv for my now 5yo and is currently my babies HV so she knows my situation extremely well. My question is if I got her to sign a NCC1 form for both my 1st and 2nd children (given she knows the whole situation) would I be entitled to the backdated amount from when my 3rd was born untill I canceled my claim last year? Meaning she would be classed as my 1st / 2nd depending on if they accepted my 1st as under the special circumstances aswell.
Also if they did accept both children would my 4th (the baby) be classed as my 2nd going forward in my now claim. I left the relationship long before having my 3rd and 4th so no issues as to living situation there, me and youngest 2s dad have only just started living together last year hence the canceling of my single claim.
TIA