DH spending money secretly and then lying

[Slowlyloosingit]

Just that really. I am so angry and furious with him and myself. I've challenged him and he's changed his story a bit, but not owned up to the whole thing. We've had a huge row and I am shaking.

I'm so embarrassed as I've let him look after our finances and bank balances, whilst I run the spreadsheet, which is increasingly looking like a fantasy. I am cringing and some what belateldy realising how stupid this is. I trusted him and never thought to check....

He's gone off to pick the kids and I am sitting here shaking. He says I am nagging and treating him appallingly and is trying to throw it all back on me, but I know he's still lying about how much he's spent.

Any advice? Just wanted to rant really.

Longstanding m'neter who has NC.

Are we talking about a large amount? What's he spent it on?

£10k on his car

Run hills it can get worse.

Get copies of all bank details first. Credit reports for both of you and pension details

How has he spent £10k on his car?

10k? Oh dear.
How is trying to justify that?

He's saying it was £1k and that he didn't tell me as he was too frightened to tell me and that he didn't lie in the first place. He's blowing off about how awful I am and how nice he is.

I know its much more because I found the invoice, but haven't told him this.
Leather seats and stuff

Leather seats? Bloody hell hardly necessary expense.

Had he explained himself yet OP?

You need access to everything including credit reports from every agency right now.

He could be hiding even worse but even if he isn't you need to know.

Wtaf? How the hell does he expect you not to notice a 9k difference?