x 2 pregnancy losses- any hope?

[nzjul18]

Hi,

I just wanted to write this down to see if anyone has had a similar experience to me and to see if they had any thoughts or advice. I am 35 and I have a 2 year old daughter and I am very thankful for her. I had her when I was 32 and all went well. It only took me a few months to get pregnant and the pregnancy and delivery were complicated. I came off contraception at the end of April 2024 and started trying for a second baby. Since that time I have had a miscarriage in August at nine weeks gestation and also a miscarriage in November at seven weeks gestation. The one in November was a blighted ovum. I am generally healthy but I would be in the obese range but apart from that I have no other health problems. I have started on a lot of supplements to improve my egg quality and my husband has also started taking some supplements. I have seen a few private consultants and nothing really of any signicance showed up on bloods or scans. However, one of the consultants I saw recommended progesterone pessaries from a positive test, enoxaparin injections from a positive test and baby Aspirin. I am a bit worried to take baby Aspirin from a positive test as I have read it can impact implantation. Some sources I have read say you shouldn't take baby Asprin until you are seven weeks along. Does anyone know what is best to do regarding the Aspirin? I also feel like this is causing a big strain on my relationship with my husband. I am currently in the TWW zone but I am not hopeful. I guess I am just looking for some hope or success stories from people that have had two back-to-back miscarriages. I am also wondering is there much else I can do myself to help the situation? I don't smoke or drink alcohol. Thanks in advance.

Sorry it should say the pregnancy and delivery were uncomplicated

Dd1, mc, mc, dd2 for me!
She was conceived the month I gave up hope and was going to call it quits on ttc.
She then had the audacity to make me think I was miscarrying her too but she's an absolute jokester so seems fitting now she's 6.
There is hope, its difficult and its a hard slog and the anxiety for that first trimester is insane.
Personally I was never referred for anything medical because apparently 2 miscarriages didn't warrant any extra care at the doctors I was with then.
But did look into baby aspirin for self diagnosis and decided against it as I have issues with bleeding within the first trimester and thought it would make things worse.
Have pushed for progesterone since my 3rd miscarriage now I'm on pregnancy numer 6 but apparently that's only a thing in England 😑 so still no intervention for me.

If you don't feel comfortable taking the aspirin, then don't. There will always be what ifs but I found asking myself " would I regret it more if something where to happen and I was taking x medication, or if I wasn't taking x medication" helped with deciding on some of the options I was looking into.
Also, really stepping back for a minute to evaluate priorities regarding relationship with husband vs ttc
It will only get harder with pregnancy anxiety and then having 2 children to care for

Hope any of that helps make you feel some hope?

For me it was 3rd time lucky.
and I was around your age too.

I had dd no issues age 33, then a mmc, then chemical pregnancy, then ds age 36

Wishing you luck

Sorry for your losses OP. I’m currently pregnant with my second, and had two miscarriages in between. I was referred to the recurrent miscarriage clinic by EPU after my second loss but the waiting list was around 6 months and so I had some tests done privately instead. As a result I was prescribed Asprin and daily blood thinning injections for the duration of my pregnancy and progesterone pessaries up until 16 weeks. I started all of this when EPU first saw me for an early scan at 6 weeks.

I can't comment on the aspirin but just wanted to offer some encouragement. I conceived my first child very quickly but had 2 miscarriages between my first and second babies. And when I spoke to other women I knew, this was quite a common situation. Several had also experienced 1 or 2 miscarriages between their first and second babies.

Obviously there are so many variables that impact fertility and pregnancy but I just wanted to offer a bit of hope.