Third miscarriage - time to give up?

[PatchworkSally]

I’ve been lurking on pg threads for a while. Often in the middle of the night when I knew I was about to miscarry. I’d look for the positive stories of women who still carried to term when their pg symptoms went away or had some spotting.

Sadly, my story always ends in loss. Three losses, in fact. The last one began the day before a weekend abroad for a hen party.

My husband and I have had multiple tests and nothing appears to be wrong. I’ve tried high dose folic acid and progesterone. I was obsessed with getting progesterone, but that didn’t help either.

After this third loss I think I need to put TTC behind us, because I just can’t imagine putting myself through this again. I’m 39 so taking a break doesn’t really seem an option.

I guess I just want to know the best ways people have found to cope and move forward after years of calendar watching and ovulation sticks.

I’m exhausted with it all and just want to be myself again. But, I think I’ve forgotten how.

❤️ to you all

Take methlyfolate rather than folic acid. Some people can't tolerante folic acid look up MTHFR gene

Its so hard we lije you started off easy going. But trying and loosing got pretty intense... 4 early losses was including seeing a heartbeat twice was thinking i cant put myself through again time to stop and was in the process of coming to terms with this. When i fell pregnant again . They put me straight on progestrone and asprin and baby stuck ! I was 42 ... i think going back to not trying but no protection may be be a good thing . I thought if i go back on the pill i woukd always rhink what if ...

Hi OP, I'm sorry you're going through this. I was in a similar place a few years ago and know how awful it is.

I had a MMC at 11 weeks, two MC and then an ectopic which meant I lost my left tube. I went on to have IVF and finally conceived on the 4th round!

On that final round, I asked for and was prescribed Prednisone (small dose) for the first three months. It lowers your immune system in case your body is trying to attack the 'foreign' cells in your uterus. I was never tested for NK cells but because it was our very last try, the doctor agreed to prescribe it. I can't categorically say it was the Prednisone that worked but it was my only successful pregnancy - and I was 43! Might be worth investigating. I wish you all the luck X