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Advised termination at 14 weeks. IVF pregnancy :( please help.

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Sunn15 · 26/04/2018 21:48

After many years of trying to conceive and IVF, we were thrilled to become pregnant. All fine at 8 and 12 week scans. After some bleeding and an additional scan at 14 weeks we were given the devastating news that baby has hydrops. We're waiting for further test results but have been advised it is highly likely and recommended we will need to terminate the pregnancy for medical reasons. I've done all the research and know what is coming.
I feel like I'm in a nightmare that I can't escape :( love baby so much and can't even contemplate how I'm going to come to terms with such a decision.
I'm 40 so feel like this was our last chance.
We have another frozen embryo but I'd be terrified to try again and same thing happen. Just not sure I could cope.
I feel so lost and in despair. Just wondering if anyone out there has been in a similar experience that they could share?

OP posts:
LadyWithLapdog · 04/05/2018 13:17

So sorry, Sunn

tribpot · 04/05/2018 13:22

So very sorry, Sunn15.

missjulia · 04/05/2018 19:40

I am so sorry xx

ellsbells2 · 04/05/2018 19:54

So very sorry x

TheMotherOfBears · 04/05/2018 20:00

So so sorry for your loss Flowers

elderflowerandrose · 04/05/2018 20:14

Sending you light and love at this time. You can and will come through this. I am so sorry

Sunn15 · 05/05/2018 08:13

Thank you all. We got to name our baby and spend precious time saying goodbye.
We're just devastated.
Praying for healing in time.
I just can't imagine living with this pain but know so many women go through this and come out the other side :(
Thanks again xx

OP posts:
Lisette40 · 05/05/2018 08:39

Sunn Flowers

hoping2016 · 05/05/2018 08:55

So so sorry. I can remember the feeling to this day....time will heal although you never forget. Be kind to yourself as much as you can...bug hugs xxx if you want to chat do pm me xx

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