To those of you who have chosen to let a MMC naturally run its course...

[SpunBodgeSquarepants]

Was there any warning sign that it was about to happen?

I should be 12+5, but found out two and a half weeks ago that baby was measuring 6 weeks with no heartbeat.

I went back for a second scan today to confirm miscarriage, and the consultant ran through my options with me. I have decided to go with conservative management, although I have another appointment booked for mid March, and if nothing has happened by then I will opt for ERPC.

But one thing the consultant said worries me - he said that the one down side of waiting for it to happen naturally is that it could happen at any time, any where. I've been lightly spotting for three weeks with no pain at all. Now I'm scared to leave the house!

I had one at 12 although no scan so not sure the gestation baby died at (if it did) have you been given decent painkillers?

I can't help on the out and about element as it was overnight for me but it fucking hurt. I would really ask for some if you haven't been given them already.

Sorry your going through this, it sucks

I experienced similar to you in that I should have been a lot further on than was found on the scan that I had. I honestly can't say there was any warning until very soon before it happened.

Maybe half an hour before I started getting some absolutely awful pains- a bit like (TMI) when you really really need a poo but have to hold it in only worse- that came in waves and I could feel I had started to bleed a little. I went to the toilet a few times and discovered I was absolutely pouring with blood. Passed a lot of clots and blood whilst sat on the toilet and then about 10 mins later I had this overwhelming urge to "let go". I'm sorry I can't describe it any better than that. It wasn't like a pushing sensation it was more like a "relax and let everything just go" kind of thing. Passed a small sac and some sort of tissue like pieces which I gathered up to show my other half (I still don't know why, I just felt like I needed to). Very painful and I bled extremely heavily for about an hour afterwards but once that calmed down I actually felt better than I had in weeks. I hadn't realised I didn't feel great previous but I think knowing that it was probably all over lifted a huge weight.

I'm not sure if it's related (I'm almost certain it's not actually) but I was booked in to have an ERPC the next morning and I like to think that it was the relief of knowing that one way or another it would all be finished by the next evening that set things off. Maybe my brain finally let my body let go.

I hope it happens quickly and as relatively easy for you as it did for me. It's a horrible thing to go through but having it drag out for weeks must make it that much harder. It really is shit.