heavy bleeding... waiting for a scan and it's killing me!

[stephdickens]

Hi ladies.

It's hard to talk to people face to face about these things. I am supposed to be around 9 weeks pregnant. At 8 weeks I started bleeding and haven't stopped. It's started out very light, barely noticeable but it's got much heavier accompanied by painful cramps. I went for,a scan and they told me they could see the sack with the yolk bit couldn't see anything going on inside. They have asked me to go back in a week as the sack measures 6 weeks and she said that it could simply be too early to see life yet. Meanwhile the pain is worse and the bleeding is heavier... Is there a chance that this isn't a miscarriage?

No advice but big hugs x

So sorry you're going through this. Sending hugs. I hope the time passes quickly until your scan. X

Oh Steph I am sorry for what you're going through. I went through a similar situation last October, I was 8 weeks pregnant and started bleeding heavily, on and off over a few days, but then it got heavier and didn't really stop. In the week and a half of bleeding I had two positive hb scans, but they also found a large blood clot (subchorionic hematoma) under the baby. The stats looked good, but at 9.5 weeks I sadly lost the baby. I know this isn't the positive outcome you would like to hear, but I wanted to reassure you that there are women who experience bleeding and things be ok. I am thinking of you and hoping things turn out ok. If you carry on bleeding, ring your EPU and get an earlier scan, they should be supporting you through this. X

Big hugs OP.
I have also been where you are and had a scan which measured 6 weeks when I knew I should have been 9 weeks. I hadn't had any bleeding.I still had to wait for confirmation, but I knew it was a mmc because I was certain of my dates and if I had only been 6 weeks, it meant I would have had my positive test a week before conception even took place.

If you are uncertain of your dates, there could be a chance you ovulated late and are only 6 weeks. But I would say combined with the bleeding, it might be better to prepare for the worst as can help to feel in control of a situation like this. Have a look at the miscarriage association website as they have Lots of info about what to expect and what happens next.

I hope everything's okay xx

Hi everyone.
Thanks for your messages. I sadly lost our Baby last night. I'm in shock and I can't help but feel guilty. I couldn't help my baby and even though I already have a daughter, I'm terrified I'll never be able to conceive Again.

Steph don't feel bad, these things happen and I know it's devastating but your not alone, a lot of us have had mc's and then have gone on to have perfectly healthy pregnancies and babies. It'll take some time but you'll be okay. I think the most frustrating thing is we never get an answer why. Just take some time to rest and cry it out, if you work give yourself sometime off for your body to recover and emotionally. I am so sorry xx

I'm so sorry. I have been there too.

You didn't do anything wrong. Almost all miscarriages are caused by chromosomal abnormalities. Of all the several million sperm that get to the egg, some of them are bound to result in something which will never develop into a baby. It's a clever body which recognises that and stops nurturing it. It's right. It's exactly how we evolved. No person in the world and no uterus in the world could have made that pregnancy work.

That's not to dismiss your feelings. It's devastating and you have to grieve for the future that you had imagined and for what you've lost.

I'm really really sorry. Give yourself time.

Guybrush my GP said the same to me, it does give a little reassurance that it wasn't anything that could have been prevented, and the body just knows when somethings not right.