Headwreck & Hope. Support for those who are/might be experiencing MMC/MC/early pregnancy loss.

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Original threadtotal headwreck, empty sac 11 days ago, embryo 6wk there today

Support for those who are/might be experiencing MMC/MC/early pregnancy loss.

Just read your other thread Tft. Sending a huge hug. I will be ttc ASAP too. I will need a focus x

Hi all, I know this thread is nearly full but wondered if I could join you. I should be 6 weeks today but started bleeding last night and it got heavier this morning and I started having a dull ache.

GP referred me to EPU who were brilliant, had a scan this morning but they couldn't see anything at all which was so upsetting. I felt like I'd gone mad and imagined the whole thing. Thankfully the urine test was positive otherwise I worried they would throw me out for making it up and wasting their time!

I had blood tests done and am waiting for the results but the nurse said there are three possibilities, either ectopic, miscarriage or my dates are wrong. Sadly I know it's not that my dates are wrong as I was charting.

Can anyone tell me what I should do next? I don't actually feel that bad physically but as I keep bursting into tears I decided not to go into work. I think I will go in tomorrow if I feel up to it, but should I expect the bleeding to get worse? Or as I am only 6 weeks will there not be much blood? The bleeding I've had so far has been lighter than a normal period.

In a strange way I feel guilty for being so sad about it, after all I am only 6 weeks and only got a positive test 2.5 weeks ago so it's not like I've been pregnant for long. I feel so upset though.

Hi worried and [flowers to you]. I was in the exact same situation as you about 2 weeks ago, was 5+5 and had sharp pains so was sent to EPU but they couldn't see anything. She thought she could see a teeny weeny gestational sac (1.5mm) but couldn't be sure so classified it as 'pregnancy of unknown location' and did a blood test with a repeat two days later. At my second blood test the nurse said my hormone levels from the first were very low, and then the second blood confirmed they were dropping. I started brown bleeding the day of the second blood test and then when they tested me again my levels were almost down to zero.

They think in my case the embryo implanted but simply never developed. This was a blessing in a way as it meant the bleed I experienced was simply like a normal period (maybe a little bit heavier, but nothing horrific and no clotting). I stopped bleeding a few days ago and am now immediately TTC again.

I took a week off work as felt really emotional. If you need to then get signed off by your GP, only you know when you are ready to go back.

Every miscarriage is different but as you were so early on, like me, there's a good possibility the actual physical stuff won't be too traumatic. Doesn't make it any easier emotionally though, I know how horrible it is.

Do you have good support IRL?

I know I said that I'm trying to move on from this thread but we must make sure there is a new one when this is full as the 'Headwreck and Hope' Thread has helped so many of us !!

Stay strong ladies - you will get through this. It's shit ! Be angry and let yourselves cry and grieve !!

I've never started a thread before but I'm happy to try if it helps you ladies out ? Let me know or if someone else wants to do it and add the link in a post here then that's fine too.

iamadaft thank you SO much for your response it is really helpful. Sounds like my situation is almost identical, mine is also a "pregnancy of unknown location".

Good luck TTC again this month, how quickly did you decide that's what you wanted to do? I can't face thinking about it at the moment but I know I will want to decide soon.

It's funny, before starting TTC I was worried about not being able to get pregnant at all, and discovering something was seriously wrong at the 20 week scan etc. But for whatever reason early miscarriage didn't really cross my mind. Now it's happened

DH was away with work last night so I haven't seen him since before the bleeding started. He goes away literally once every six months so the timing was ridiculously bad!! He'll be home soon and I can't wait to see him, he knows what has happened as I have spoken to him on the phone. I know it is going to be so sad when we see each other.

My manager didn't know I was pregnant but I've emailed her to tell her what is going on and she is being very understanding. She said to take as much time as I need but I think I might feel better if I go into work tomorrow, at least it will be a distraction.

adventuregame this thread has kept me sane this afternoon, but I wouldn't want you to start a new one just for me! If others are keen though I think it's a good idea.

Adventure would be lovely to start a new thread! Would do it myself but can't as on my phone.

Worried it wasn't really much of a decision for me to be honest, I just knew the only thing going to make me feel better was trying to get pregnant again as soon as possible. I totally get you though, I was worried about not being able to get pregnant too and didn't really think about early miscarriage. But it's so so common - 1 in 4 pregnancies. I feel crap about it but I also feel lucky it was so early and touch wood there are no complications.

If you're happy to go to work then do, everyone is different :)

OK I'll give it a go and see if we can get all you new ladies to hop over so the thread can continue to keep us sane !!

Watch this space for a link !!

Ok here's the new thread....

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/miscarriage/2400398-Headwreck-Hope-Support-for-those-who-are-might-be-experiencing-misscarriage-New-Thread