Inevitable miscarriage or not? Hospital don't know. Grateful of any advice

[PearMice]

I am 7 weeks pregnant and have been bleeding fairly heavily for 2 weeks now. I have had two previous pregnancies one resulting in miscarriage at 7 weeks the other in my wonderful 2yo DD.

Went to the EPU for a scan at 6 weeks and they couldn't see anything that was causing the bleeding but could clearly see the sac and yolk. Kept bleeding at home and assumed I had miscarried. Went back for another scan yesterday and they could still see the sac and yolk which had grown since the previous scan but still too small to detect a heart beat or not. They have taken bloods to check hormone levels but I am confident they are rising still as I suffered from HG from 8 weeks with DD and I am feeling sicker by the day now.

Has anyone else experienced anything like this? They are scanning me again in a week and have told me that I am likely to miscarry but some women bleed this much in successful pregnancies. I am struggling to get through the day at the moment and would be grateful of any replies.

I'm sorry you're experiencing this, it must be so hard as you say just getting through each day at the moment. I dont know whether to say this or not, as I'd hate to give you false hope, but I do know of the sil of a friend who experienced this, she had loads of bleeding which went on for weeks, but they did have a healthy baby in the end. I'm not sure whether they found a reason for the bleeding. But obviously it does happen sometimes, as they said at EPU. I really hope it settles down for you soon x

Gosh every day must seem so long to you.

Unfortunately I think the EPU are right in that it could be successful PG or it could be a MC and it is a horrible waiting game.

I lost one at 8 weeks where I'd bled from 6 and had scans at 6+5 and 7+6: the 7+6 one was particularly gutting because it meant the night before I MC'd I'd seen the heartbeat and was hopeful, so it felt like a real kick in the teeth.

On the other hand one of my close friends bled heavily, had a scan and was told there was no hope and was offered an ERPC in a weeks time. She stopped bleeding a couple of days before the ERPC so they rescanned to check whether she still needed it or had passed everything and found a healthy baby in there- now 16 weeks old.

So the problem is, I think, that all EPU can do is wait and see as they can't really tell for sure until a MC happens or the threat of one passes.

The only thing that kept me sane was breaking the day down into little pieces like 'ok it is 3pm, until 7pm I am going to x' rather than having time stretching out in front of me.

Hi Pear I've had this go both ways. I bled for 6 weeks with Ds2 and he was fine, and I've had 4 miscarriages, sometimes they appeared to be sudden, sometimes I had bleeding for a few weeks before they happened for real. I've had it all ways at scans, been spot on for dates with a heartbeat and subsequently miscarried, and been behind dates and developing too slowly but still with a HB for weeks before MC. I can see why EPU are so reluctant to commit themselves, but it is awful being left in limbo. How sure are you about your dates? I would say IME being behind for dates has always been bad news, but I have a predictable cycle and have always been pretty certain when I conceived.
I have found it best to prepare for the worst and let others do the hoping for the best on my behalf, but nevertheless it has been a blow when the last spark of hope is extinguished, and very difficult waiting another week to find out.
Thinking of you

Thank-you so much for the replies and stories good and bad. I am so sad that some of you have gone through this too. Breaking down the days is a good plan that might make things easier. I am trying to keep busy and not think about it too much otherwise I get a bit frozen with panic.

I am prepared for the worst really but can't help but have a flicker of hope that it might all be ok in the end. I am fairly sure of my dates as DH and I were TTC and the EPU have said the sac measurement would go with those dates at the first scan and was measuring fine for dates at the second.

Its so hard, I keep thinking If we knew it was a definite miscarriage we could try to move on but then I start worrying that we will never have another DC and if I let myself get too hopeful every twinge or trip to the loo is heart breaking.

My lovely DD is keeping me going so I am trying to stay strong for her as I don't want her to see me too upset.