Missed miscarriage - what to do

[BillyGoatsGruffalo]

Hello,

My husband and I found out on Friday that we lost our baby at 9 weeks (we thought we were 11 weeks on Friday). I haven't had any bleeding, spotting or cramping while pregnant.

At the moment we are giving ourselves some
time and opting to let nature take its course. Our other option is an ERPC under general anaesthetic. I would like to avoid this if possible.

I suppose there are two main things I am looking for advice about, if anyone is willing to share their experience with me:

1. The likelihood of having a complete miscarriage with expectant management/the wait and see approach - I have read that this happens in only about 40% of cases and am worried I will therefore end up having to have an ERPC anyway.

2. How long I might have to wait for the miscarriage to start - I know it will be different for everyone and no one can say - I'm just wondering if I could be waiting for weeks on end? Will the hospital advise me to have an ERPC before that point?

I have also thought of one more question - if I wanted to opt for the medical route does anyone know if I can pay to have this done privately? It is not offered in my area.

Thank you in advance to anyone who's taken the trouble to read and respond.

Thanks Sunshine - am still waiting at the mo but going to the hospital tomorrow to talk about the ERPC and hopefully get myself booked in for the end of the week - I will have waited 2 weeks by then and feel that's about as much as I can take at the moment. I feel I have let go and whilst I still feel the loss, I want my body to catch up with where I've got to mentally, if that makes sense.

However, have made the mistake of researching the EPRC online and am terrified it will scupper my future chances of having a baby Guess I just have to cross my fingers and hope for the best.

Thanks for posting, my heart goes out to you and I hope you are getting lots of support at this difficult time x

Sorry, always forget whether it's ERPC or EPRC, the former I think!