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Counsellor just undermined MCs

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KTDace · 10/12/2010 10:30

I am so cross.

I have just had a conversation with a counsellor and he undermined my depression post MC, telling me that we needed to get to the root of the problem. I told him the root of the problem was the MC, he then said I was taking it out of proportion! What, I am sad because I have had 2 MCs, that I am not currently 6 months pregnant, that I have just had my first proper cycle post MC and it reminded me of everything?

God I am so fucked off, this was just after I had told him that our society does not understand the grief people experience post a MC and expects us to just forget it a couple of weeks down the line. I wished I had asked him whether he would have said the same to someone who's parent had just died?

He has just made me feel a hell of a lot worse and now I am dreading our next chat which is the same day that I am going to the MC clinic.

Moan over Smile

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ChildofIsis · 15/12/2010 21:14

Well done for standing up for yourself.

It's a fairly typical male response IME.
Albeit he's a counsellor so should've been above that sort of judgement.

I think you should give yourself a huge pat on the back for having such courage and strength of character.

I hope things improve for you.

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