After oestrogen receptive breast cancer in 2004, my libido dwindled to zero. I'm now 60 and in menopause.i can't take hrt and have just come home from a menopause appt with a private specialist who suggested psycho therapy.
My husband blames my running for my low sex drive, as that's where I get my dopamine hit from apparently. He gets his from sex of course.
He kinda forgets that I have run all my life, without it replacing sex - Until BC came along just as I was finishing breast feeding my youngest, who is now 21. No connection obvs, nor with the fact that I only have one breast - the other is a bit of a mess after several surgeries over the years for various reasons.
I run during the day, on my own, not in bed when I'm with him. Well, eventually as he is up until 2am and I'm asleep by 11. That doesn't help matters.